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Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Companionship and The "L" Word (and no, I'm not talking about the TV show)

Taking a little break from blogging about douchebags LOL. :-)

For a while I've been avoided blogging about this. One of the members of Concierge du Monde started a thread about the emotional part of companionship. He asked a very interesting question: "Would you keep seeing your companion, growing more attached, or would you stop seeing him altogether to avoid feelings of deeper attachment?" This is one of the unspoken things that both parties don't talk about. Maybe because it may not be an issue. If this isn't an issue for you, you're lucky. If you do happen to find yourself having romantic feelings for your companion, this is what I suggest you do to keep them at bay.

Keep busy with your own life and interests. Although you may feel a connection to your companion and consider him your friend, realize that you are not a couple in a real relationship. Aside from some flirtatious banter between emails, phone calls, and engagements, this is the extent of any ties with him. When your mind is preoccupied with other things, it doesn't give you mental space to dwell on missing him and checking on him to see what he's up to.

Date other men that are not companions. Keep your options open. Realize this man will never be your boyfriend or husband and you will NEVER have a relationship with him, other than being very expensive friends with benefits. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you are after a committed, long-term relationship or even marriage in the future, hold out for a man who can give you these things that don't come with a price tag.

Pleasure is best when you know it's fleeting. Think of this man as "fun" and "temporary" and you will be okay. Know that you have to share him with other women because this is what he does to earn his livelihood. He is a pro who is good at what he does and you don't want to feel like you're trying to stop him from doing what he wants. You may feel jealous of this fact, but all you can do is try to ignore it.

Focus on the precious time you will spend with him and forget about everyone else (unless you're not the jealous type, then good for you). Know that a companion is not the type of man to settle down, at least not with you, and don't entertain fantasies about it AT ALL. If you do, ask yourself why you're thinking these things. If this is what you really want, don't hire a companion and try to find a regular guy through a professional dating service or some other means.

It's hard if you feel a genuine connection, attraction, and chemistry with your companion when you meet him, and you like each other, but once you can get past all this, you've got it made. Obviously, if you're already in a relationship, this is a no-brainer for you, or again, like I said, maybe it's not even an issue. We are only human and not machines without feelings. There are some things that may be beyond your control, no matter how hard you try to hide it or suppress it. You must suppress it, though, if only for your own sanity and peace of mind.

If more regular men were like companions, if there weren't so many douchebags like the ones I've written about, then there would be no need to hire real gentlemen to entertain us. For me, I would keep seeing my companion because it's a lot of fun, plus it's nice to find someone who I can see that represents the ideal qualities I would be looking for in a potential boyfriend once I finally settled down with one. It's a safe way to explore fantasies without fear of judgment, being able to go to places and do things that regular men may balk at, and being in control of your needs and desires with no strings, which is exactly the reason male companions are available. It's a matter of convenience. I know that sounds cold, but when I need him, he's there, and when I don't, then he's not.

Remember, you are always in control and you decide what the extent of your friendship will be with this man for as long as you wish.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

The financial aspect of hiring a companion

Today I would like to focus on the big issue when it comes to hiring a companion: MONEY.

Hiring a male escort isn't cheap. If it was, everyone would be doing it and it would quickly lose its allure. Being able to afford a man of good breeding, manners, style, taste, sophistication, and eloquence is a luxury, especially in these hard economic times when more people are holding onto their money rather than spending it. Only ladies of means (or those who are lucky enough to save up enough money, like me) can hire a companion. When you find the right man who will treat you to a wonderful evening where you get to feel completely desired like the beautiful woman you are, then it is worth every penny. Like the old saying goes, "You get what you pay for."

Nearly all the male escorts I've talked to said they got into their profession because they were tired of a 9 to 5 existence and wanted to experience something exciting and different. Some of them are doing this to pay for school and will go on to do something else in the future, some of them do it part-time in addition to a regular day job, and others are doing this as their full-time career. Some work independently or for an agency. For whatever reason they choose to do it, the one thing I know for certain is that they love doing it and they want to be able to do whatever it takes to please you and make you happy. They know they cannot exist without you, the client, who is number one.

Many of them will either offer an in-call where you will meet them at a location of their choice, or if you're not comfortable, you can always have them meet you in a public place, and if you feel comfortable enough, at a hotel or your own home (out-call). The rates for male companions are called "donations". Most will have a bare minimum rate of an hour to two hours. This is about $300-400, depending on the companion. One of them offered me an introductory cocktail package of $300 for a minimum of three hours. If you want more time with them, dinner will usually run you about $1,000-$1,500, but then again, it varies. For longer engagements that last 12-14 hours or 24 hours, then it usually runs about $2,000-$3,000+. If you want to hire a companion for a longer engagement, they are willing to negotiate a fair price with you.

All of them are willing to travel to meet you anywhere in the world. Some even include the price of the flight, dinner, and hotel in their package along with their donation. Others will want you to pay for their travel expenses, unless you hire them for longer than 24 hours, then they will pay for their own airfare. You are responsible for all your own expenses accrued during your time with him (hotel, dinner, cab fare, etc.).

The donation is always paid in cash and it must always be discreetly given to him in an plain white envelope, like a gift card, a gift bag, book, or magazine. It is expected you give it to him within the first 20 minutes of meeting each other. Some companions will want you to lay it on a table. Others you can hand it to directly. Again, it depends on the companion's discretion. Some may count it out in front of you, some may not. My advice is that you never mention one word about the money when you give it to him. Trust in good faith that he has it all under control. He is a pro and the last thing you need to do is worry about money. Once you get the money issue out of the way, then you're good to go. :-)

A deposit through Paypal or some other form of electronic payment is required for out-of-town engagements, so that there's a guarantee, or insurance policy, if you will, that he knows you won't flake out on him for any reason. If it so happens you must cancel or rearrange your plans, please give him plenty of advance notice, otherwise he will have to charge you at least half of what you agreed to pay him to make up for being inconvenienced, and you don't want to have to deal with that.

Earlier I mentioned that it can be difficult for a woman to make this decision because it's not as mainstream as men hiring female escorts. How do you know the man on the other side of the computer screen isn't a con artist trying to swindle you out of your hard-earned money? Rest assured, all the men on this blog have been verified, and if he is serious about his livelihood, he will give you plenty of references to check out and reviews to put you at ease. Beware if he doesn't easily offer you this information, or if he charges exorbitant amounts of money. If he tries to pressure you into hiring him right away, watch out. A true pro will never try to force you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Always trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, DON'T DO IT.

The bottom line is, you are paying for a true gentleman's company. If only regular men could treat you like this for free, then we wouldn't have male escorts, unfortunately. But I have to admit, a lot of men out there are clueless on how to treat women with respect, so luckily we do have gentlemen who will give you the "BFE" or "Boyfriend Experience" for however long you want to spend time with them. It's about quality, not quantity, I always say, and for such a unique, sensual, and pleasurable experience, you should be absolutely sure you are getting exactly what you want when you want it.

However, I advise you should not break the bank. It can be addicting to keep hiring someone that you had the time of your life with. If your financial situation isn't completely stable at the moment, it is good to wait until you're 100% ready to do something like this. It shouldn't drive you into the poor house. Once you are ready, though, get ready for an experience that will make your wildest dreams come true.

EDIT: For more information in greater detail about etiquette and donations when it comes to hiring a male companion, please check out this thread from Concierge du Monde.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

How to find the right male companion for you

Since I've been hiring male escorts, I've noticed more and more gentlemen are coming out of the woodwork to promote themselves for hire on the internet. This is definitely a good thing because now there are more yummy hot guys to choose from! Believe me, I wish there had been this many when I was looking last spring - it would have made it a hell of a lot easier, or more difficult, if you think about it, because it would've taken more time to get to know some of them before I made my decision.

All of the gentlemen are unique in their own way and market themselves as such. Some are more traditional and sophisticated, some of them are more relaxed and casual. The most gorgeous one with the best website doesn't necessarily mean he's going to be the right one for you. The one who's the most smooth-talking and refined may not be the right one either. The one who has the best deal as far as his donation doesn't mean he's worth the investment. In fact, I may hire someone who's more expensive, but is giving me a better quality experience in the long run. It's like a seeing a full-price item that is of good quality as opposed to one that's on sale that may not be of the same quality. You may decide the full price item gives you greater value.

So how can you tell if you're going to get a dud or a stud? The number one question a client will ask, regardless of what business it is or what product or service is offered will be, "What's in it for me?" How will they know how to make you as an individual feel special and unique, instead of feeling like a notch in one long expensive belt?

Sure, they can all tell you the same thing, that they're the perfect male companion to spend an evening with, that they will make you feel pampered, relaxed, and happy. Some of their websites will be more impressive than others. Pay close attention to how the website is set up. Are they lighthearted in their approach, or more mysterious? Color has a lot to do with it. Look at the color scheme of the website (color is more psychological than we think it is). Do the colors feel warm and pleasant, or are they cold and impersonal? Does the language they use convey a fun, relaxed, playful mood, or is it designed to be more urbane, refined, and stylish?

The only way to really tell is to email and talk to the ones that strike a chord with you. Shop around. Don't agree to hire the first one that answers you back right away. The more you peel back the layers, the more you may discover this man is not your cup of tea. If you go ahead and decide to do it anyway, you may have a negative experience like I had with Companion X, and at the end of it, you'll regret what you did and feel like you wasted your hard-earned money. Personality is the biggest asset the guys have to sell themselves. I don't care what anybody says. Looks are not always the best indicator, neither is the coolest-looking website. If your potential client isn't comfortable with your approach, you can kiss her goodbye.

The biggest mistake a gentleman can make - actually, the two biggest mistakes are automatically assuming she's sold on you right from the first email and she's ready to hire you (remember, she may be looking at your competitors online who may be a better fit for her), and assuming what her financial position is (I'll go into the financial part of it in greater detail in a future blog). It's Sales 101. If I pushed products and talked them up right when the customer came into my store, it would make them run out so fast your damn head would spin. Also, you never know what kind of money she has to spend, so never, ever judge unless she explicitly tells you, "You know what, you're rates are a little bit higher than what I wanted to pay, sorry."

The way I learned to sell to people is indirectly. Lower their defenses, make the customer see you as a human being instead of a salesperson, and you'll have him or her eating out of the palm of your hand. So we learned to open the sale with non-business opening lines. Talk about everything but the product. People love to talk about themselves. It's human nature. We are all inherently narcissistic, even the most modest person. So if you can get your lady to see you as a normal, regular guy underneath the suave gigolo persona, you've got it made. (At least that's how I would want it to be).

A lady and her companion should ideally get to know one another first through their correspondence so it can be a better indicator of how their date will be when they meet in person. Think about how you feel when you talk to him. Are you relaxed and comfortable, or do your instincts tell you that something's not right? Does he suggest things that you aren't comfortable with? Does he allow you to take charge and suggest your own ideas of what you want to do when you spend time with him? If you don't feel entirely comfortable, then don't do it. Keep looking for someone else, talk to more than one if necessary, and then when you're comfortable enough with the "right one", enjoy your time with him! :-)

Men have it far easier than women when it comes to hiring escorts. For centuries men have had the luxury of concubines, mistresses, courtesans, etc. as I mentioned in a previous post. Women didn't have those luxuries until recently. Men can talk about it with other men, but ladies, is this something you can easily discuss, even with your closest girlfriends? Even I can't discuss it with my best girlfriend I've known for years who's like my sister. Men hire female escorts basically for one purpose. I'm pretty sure you know what it is. I'm not sure if men necessarily want to get to know their female companions. Some of them may, but some of them just want to get right down to business.

But we women want the total quality experience. This is exactly what you pay for when you hire a gentleman. He has to give you something your regular, inept, garden-variety husband, boyfriend, or would-be suitor cannot. He will be charming, romantic, attentive to details, take his time, and fulfill your fantasy. It's all about having fun and being treated like a queen. So if you are going to make this important decision, you want to make sure you're going to find the man who's right for you. It's like a new form of dating that isn't traditional, so it can be a difficult decision for you to make. Trust me, when you find the right companion, you'll feel like you've died and gone to heaven. I wouldn't be saying this if it wasn't the honest to God truth.

Good luck and I hope you find the right companion out there for you! :-D

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Oh, Lords!

"If you're sexy, everybody will love you. That's what I wanted."

Today I would like to devote a special blog post to Miss Traci Elizabeth Lords, a.k.a. Nora Louise Kuzma, the greatest porn actress of all time (IMO).

For those of you who know the story, Traci rose to fame in porn when she was only fifteen from 1984-1986 when she was caught red-handed by the Feds shortly after her eighteenth birthday. Her last and only legal film, Traci I Love You, made tons of money after the scandal. The porn industry lost millions and experienced legal troubles for years. All her illegal films were subsequently pulled off the shelves of video stores all over the country. Some people claim Traci herself blew the whistle so she could take the money and run. Others say it was her mother or people in the business who found out about her age and wanted to sabotage her. To this day, no one really knows for sure.

She used someone else's birth certificate to obtain a phony ID and passport in order to work in porn. Sometimes it astonishes me that the porn industry was that stupid not to suspect her from the beginning. Even in some of her earlier films, despite the makeup (yes, I have seen quite a few of her underage films and she was damn hot in them), at times it's obvious she was underage. There's a phone interview that she did for a reporter back in 1985 that I was able to download from the AVN website a while back. She sounds so young, it's not even funny. You can listen to three parts of the interview here (for some reason I can't extract part 1 from my Zune - I'll try to extract it later somehow):

Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

After it was discovered she was underage, it pretty much finished her porn career. Traci was down, but not out. She broke into mainstream films, with her first breakout roles in the B-movie remake of Roger Corman's Not of this Earth and John Waters' Cry-Baby opposite Johnny Depp. She even took acting lessons at the famed Strasberg Studio. Over the years she has starred in or appeared in various B films and TV shows including Profiler, First Wave, Married With Children, Melrose Place, Roseanne, Wiseguys, and Gilmore Girls.

I first became aware of Traci when her album (yes, her album - Traci sings!) 1,000 Fires came out in 1995. When I found out she used to be a porn star, it didn't not turn me off in the slightest. In fact, I became curious about her and downloaded some of her old porn stuff from various P2P websites (they are readily available on the internet). In one of them she takes on three guys at once - at sixteen! When I was sixteen I hadn't even kissed a boy, and this girl had these guys on their knees begging to service her. It was AMAZING to watch. Even though she was this sex monster, there was something wholesome about her, which is why she was so popular. Her age had a lot to do with it.

The girl could have a screaming orgasm like no one else, plus she had a dynamite body, and she knew how to act even then! The camera loved her - she was a natural-born star. One of the oft-told tales was on the set of Alex de Renzy's Wild Things. The director yelled cut, and she was still going, screaming at Jamie Gillis, "Come on, mama wants it hotter!" And Jamie Gillis was no lightweight - he was as nasty as they got as far as male porn stars in those days, but even he was no match for Traci. (I've watched that sex scene between Lords and Gillis - just listening to his voiceover describing what he fantasized about doing to her underage character made me want to take a shower - it was so sleazy and filthy - 70s and 80s porn was dirty, dirty, dirty!). She is not a passive sex symbol by any means. She forged her own path and is still going strong today.

Traci at the beginning at her career, and the end. Look how hardened she became in only two years!

I know people want to bash her for all kinds of things, that porn made her, she's a liar, she denounced the industry, she has no talent, blah, blah, blah. I'll have to admit, these are exactly the things I admire about her. She was a teenage Machiavellian. Sure, what she did was wrong, but when we're young, we all make mistakes. Plus, I kind of admire the fact that she gave the industry a wake-up call and almost brought them down. It was just as much their responsibility as it was hers to prove she was of age to make those films in the first place. Now the 2257 laws are enforced on every piece of adult material distributed in the US to make sure no more Tracis slip through the porn industry's fingers.

Now Traci is happily married with a young son. She made her most recent film appearance in Zack and Miri Make a Porno, where she has a small role as a randy cougar porn star named Bubbles, known for a special talent. It's good to know Traci has a sense of humor about her past. Viva La Lords! :-D

Monday, September 14, 2009

Pretty, witty Nell Gwyn - The King's Favorite

Let's have a history lesson today, boys and girls, shall we? ;-)

I'd like to focus on one my favorite historical figures. Above is a portrait of Eleanor "Nell" Gwyn, one of the first females to act on the English stage and the favorite of King Charles II. Despite being a commoner who grew up in one of the poorest parts of London working in a bawdy house (brothel) when she was very young, she rose to the status of actress, even though it was not considered a dignified profession for women in those days. She never learned to read or write, with the exception of signing an awkward "E.G." for important documents. She learned all her lines merely by listening to them. She became famous with the English people because of her humor, wit, and charm, excelling at comedic roles. It is assumed she was a prostitute in addition to selling oranges in the theater before she became famous and slept with various theater men to get ahead in her career.

Judging by what I've read about her, she was a straight shooter - what you saw was what you got with Mrs. Gwyn. She never put on any airs or pretended to be something she was not. One time a footman of hers got into a fight with someone who called Nell a whore. She broke up the fight by saying, "I am a whore. Find something else to fight about." Another famous story was her coach was passing by a group of hecklers who thought she was one of her rivals. She peeked her head out of the window and said, "Pray, be civil, good people. I am the Protestant whore!" As soon as they saw Nell, they cheered and let her go in peace. :-)

Charles was known to keep a stable of royal mistresses around since his Queen Consort, Catherine de Braganza, frequently miscarried, and since he was the King, he could not help but partake of the pleasures of many beautiful women. He was described as tall, handsome, and a romantic figure during a colorful era. With his return to the throne after overthrowing the Puritanical reign of Cromwell, the Restoration period came to be known, and such things as music, singing, dancing, and theater were brought back to life.

Nell was a player in the King's Company and Charles noticed her right away. The same qualities that enchanted the English people also drew Charles to her. She became one of the King's mistresses and bore him two sons. What set her apart from all the others, including her main rival, Louise de Kerouaille, the Duchess of Portsmouth, a well-born noblewoman from the French aristocracy (also Catholic, which is why Nell referred to herself as the "Protestant whore"), was how unaffected and natural she was. Everytime he was with her, she made sure he was entertained with her lively, spirited humor and plenty of good food and drink. They spent a lot of time out in the country, where she taught him to fish and play cards. All the other women made so many demands, but whenever they got on his nerves, he turned back to Nell. The other women had his body, but she had captured his heart and soul.

Louise had a habit of being melancholy and was prone to crying jags. Nell would call the Duchess "Weeping Willow" and "Squintabella" to her face. She would mock the pretentious Duchess by showing up at court wearing a black mourning gown, exaggeratedly crying, saying she was in mourning for fake relatives such as the "Boog of Oronooko" or the "Cham of Tartary". It was antics like this that kept Charles intrigued, amused, and delightfully surprised. He never knew what Nell had up her sleeve, which was the reason she was able to keep his attention longer than the others. She was ambitious and learned how to navigate the shark-infested waters of Whitehall.

Nell died in 1687, two years after Charles passed away. She suffered a couple of strokes, which left her bedridden and paralyzed. Charles had left a provision in his will ("Let not poor Nelly starve") and all her debts were paid off before she died. At her funeral, the Archbishop of Canterbury was quoted as saying, "Just so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance."

Nell's story fascinates me because she lived such an amazing life in a short period of time (she only lived to be 37). It's the classic rags-to-riches story. A poor girl from the slums of London rising to fame and prominence on the stage, who finally conquered the king's heart. She never stopped believing in her dreams. True, she made mistakes, she could be crass, and did unsavory things to get ahead in life, but she had enormous influence and power for a woman in that time period. She didn't care what people thought of her and lived her life the way she wanted. She was one of a kind and that is why she is still remembered to this day.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Sexy Smith from Seattle

Today I would like to write about my special male companion, Smith Curren. :-)

As you read in an earlier post, I was very disappointed in the first choice I made. Despite my disappointment, I was still thinking of giving Companion X a second chance. Ironically, I found Smith through Companion X's website. I decided to click on his banner out of curiosity. I am so glad I did.

Smith's website is not as polished or fancy as X's (he designed it himself), but it speaks volumes about how down-to-earth and natural he is as a person. I liked his sense of humor and warmth, which came through in his bio. I got a good idea of what he looked like through the pictures on his site even though you don't see his entire face, but you can still see his captivating smile. I read on his blog, The Past and Pending, that he was a fan of Frank Sinatra and the Rat Pack, which I am as well. I also liked that he was into eclectic things like this indie movie he wrote about. Judging from that, I felt like he had class and good taste. I decided I would take a chance and contact him.

We exchanged a couple of emails before he gave me his number. We hit it off right away. He has this loud, hearty laugh that I really like, which is a lot like mine. He is easily amused and loves a good risque joke. He is also easy to flirt with and have a conversation with. Within the first five minutes of speaking to him, I felt like I had known him for years and that he was an old friend of mine. He has a deep, sexy voice and I liked that he thought my voice was sexy as well. (Plus, he is a Capricorn! Straight-laced, cool, nonchalant, and understated on the outside; hot, passionate, wild and uninhibited on the inside.) ;-)

I had no hesitations or doubts about him at all. He gave me a couple of references to check out, but I didn't feel it was necessary to contact them because I trusted him 100% and I respected his integrity. I never got any weird vibes about him at all. It was easy to plan what I was going to do with him once I hired him to visit me in Vegas. (Get your mind out of the gutter! LOL) ;-)

We both share a love of vintage Vegas, and I was pleasantly surprised that we had quite a few things in common. He sent me a couple of reviews from past clients and that also impressed me. What really sealed the deal for me were those gorgeous pictures! It made my imagination run wild - I started to think of myself being in those scenes and I was hooked. ;-)

Of course, naturally I was nervous when I checked into the hotel the day of our date. He sent a bunch of sweet text messages letting me know he had arrived and couldn't wait to meet me. He surprised me by saying he had checked into another room at the same hotel (companions will often have a separate hotel room as kind of a closet, if you will, to leave their stuff before meeting a client). I wanted to make sure I looked my best for him so I could make a great first impression.

My first impression of him was that he was charming, relaxed, and sweet. He is not conventionally handsome, but he has a distinctive look that would make you notice him instantly, whether he was dressed up in a suit and tie or casual clothes. He has brown spiky hair, brown eyes, and freckles. He wore the suit that you see in one of his pictures in the gallery section of his website (the picture where he's wearing the hat) because I had asked him to. His whole demeanor suggests that you are in for the time or your life, or as he often says, to cause trouble or mischief. ;-)

He looks older than 29, but that's a typical Cap trait - they look wiser beyond their years because they often are, but he has a youthful spirit and energy that is infectious. That's definitely a plus in his favor. He also has a very nice, athletic body and has this cute little strut when he walks. He never stopped holding my hand or ceased being affectionate and romantic with me, which is something that made me feel very happy.

What I also like about him is that he's an open book and I appreciate his honesty and sincerity. He mainly wanted to know about me, which I wasn't really prepared for since the man I knew before (the one I wrote the poems for in my earlier post) was Smith's total opposite and antithesis. If you can imagine a man who is proud, vain, arrogant, egotistical, spoiled, self-centered, flashy, showy, and basically a total jerkoff who thinks it's all about "me, me, me", then you know this is definitely NOT who Smith is. (Ladies, I think we've all met and fallen for smarmy assholes like that at some point in our lives.) He wasn't intimidated or afraid of me and I felt safe and comfortable being in his company. He was such a breath of fresh air. It was nice to be with someone humble for a change who was genuinely interested in getting to know me and couldn't wait to be alone with me.

I surprised him with dinner at the Sinatra restaurant at Encore, knowing he would appreciate it because he's a fan, and he was thrilled. We walked around the Strip and I was happy to show him all the points of interest. My only regret is that I wish I had more time to spend with him. I don't think the time we had was enough because we enjoyed ourselves too damn much. I plan to hire him for many more dates in the future. If you read my review on CDM, I'll say it again. You'd be wasting your time if you hire someone else. If both my blog and review impressed you enough, then you should click on Smith's banner above and contact him. Except if he's in Vegas, he'll be all tied up LOL. Sorry, ladies! ;-)

I'm glad that he is my friend and I am extremely proud to know him. He is a true gentleman. :-)

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Concierge du Monde - Website and Forum for Ladies and Male Companions

Today I would like to post a blog about a website and forum I go to on a regular basis, Concierge du Monde. If you click on the banners above, you will be directed to the sites. I was invited to become a member by Smith last month shortly after our date. It is run by the lovely Holly Brooks, a female companion based here in Las Vegas. Although I have not always seen eye-to-eye with some of the members there and I thought at one point I wanted to leave, I'm glad I didn't. I look forward to posting any advice there I feel would help other ladies in selecting a male companion in addition to my blog here.

I would not have this blog if it wasn't for my debate on CDM. I think it has to do with the perpetual rebellious teenager in me. Because a lot of them do not believe in monogamy or marriage and feel that relationships and marriages should be open, my natural response was to disagree and rebel against them. Ironically, if I were part of a forum that had conservative, right-wing, religious members (I consider myself moderately liberal), then I would rebel against their beliefs and values too LOL. I always try to march to the beat of my own drum. :-)

So I decided to create this blog to be a voice on the internet for women who may be in the same situation as I once was. The gentlemen all market themselves in different ways, but I feel some women out there would be more comfortable getting advice and help from another woman. I never thought I would be the female representative for male companionship, but I have taken it upon myself to be the first (that I know of) to write about my experiences. I hope I can be a source of inspiration for you, as I am still learning and growing myself. I'm still learning how to navigate this world. It hasn't always been easy, but at least it's not boring. ;-)

I equate the forum to being like the courts of England or France in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries. All of us are like modern-day courtiers, libertines, and courtesans, sometimes all three of them mixed into one! I would say I'm the most "virginal" of the CDM "courtiers" LOL. As far as what goes on with the CDM members in real life, that is something only the ladies and companions are privy to. ;-)

If you are curious, you can register for free as a member and browse the profiles of the male companions on the site (all of their banners are posted here on my blog). Your dream date awaits! :-D

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

The benefits of hiring a male escort

Today I would like to focus more on the benefits of hiring a straight male escort. I touched on this briefly in previous posts, but I would like to discuss this in further detail.

Women are obviously more attuned to details than men are. This is not to sound sexist, but we ladies have a "sixth sense" that men don't have. Luckily, these men do know what women want and are committed to making you feel special. A companion has much experience in studying women, knowing what they like and dislike, what to say or not say, in order to make you feel comfortable and relaxed. Not every companion works for every woman, but when you find the "right one", I say, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." You will surely have a genuine friend and confidante that you can hire for many, many dates, for as long as you wish.

Perhaps you're single and you haven't had the greatest luck finding a quality man to take you out. Maybe they all seem like douchebags who want a piece of ass and are not interested in getting to know you first, and are not treating you with the respect you deserve. Or maybe you are in a committed relationship or marriage and your boyfriend or husband isn't appreciating you the way he should be. Maybe you just want to experience something different and adventurous that you've never done before.

You want to have the thrill of hiding a naughty secret that no one except you and your companion know about. You're a heterosexual or lesbian couple and want to add a third (many companions see both). You're shy and you need a gentleman to bring out you out of your shell and make you feel like the confident, sexy siren that you are. Maybe you're a busy with your career and don't have time to look for something serious. Or it's as simple as wanting to hire him for an important event. Congratulations - you are the perfect candidate for hiring a male escort!

Picture it. A handsome, charming man on your arm who will be at your beck and call. He will take you to the places you've always dreamed of. He will respect you and be genuinely interested in what you have to say. You call the shots. You are in control. He's not some random schmuck in a bar or club who may use you, only to never call you again. This way you know what you're getting and he'll be exactly what you want. If you want him to be romantic, sexy, flirtatious, adventurous, scandalous, roguish, charming, funny, sensitive, strong, dominant, submissive, whatever your fantasy is, he's ready to provide it for you.

Why should men have all the fun? For centuries, men have always held the power to have mistresses, courtesans, concubines, and prostitutes while women had to be the nurturing, stabilizing force in society. Now it's the 21st century and women have all the rights that men have always had. Why not hire a male courtesan to do what female courtesans have done for men all this time - to make you feel sensual and desired.

Now, I know in this economy times are tough and with the exception of the very wealthy, it can be difficult to save enough money to afford an experience like this. I'm not rich by any means myself (although I pretend to be LOL). I go to school and I have debts just like everyone else. I can get money, but only sporadically until my business takes off and I finally have a more stable income. It was tricky to finagle enough money for my last date, but it was worth every penny.

I'm planning my next encounter, and the one after that as well. If you're serious about doing this, somehow you will find the means to hire one of these fine gentlemen. Heaven knows I did and I was beyond ecstatic. The memories I had will last me a lifetime. I feel so happy and excited every time I think about it. If I have to save every dime, I'm determined to do this again and again. That speaks volumes about how amazing it was for me. :-D

If I haven't made my case to make you click above on one of those banners, then I don't know what else to say. I'm living proof of the fun you will have if you decide to partake of this delicious adventure yourself. So, go ahead, ladies, what are you waiting for? ;-)

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Leading a double life

I would like to focus on my conflicting emotions that comes from hiring companions. Since I've become fascinated with this new world and subculture, I feel like I now live a double life.

My family and friends know nothing of my hiring male escorts. I know I could NEVER tell my mom, even though we're best friends (sometimes we're our worst enemies too), and my best female friend. In fact, I had to open a separate Twitter account for a brief period of time (it has now since been closed) since I was following a couple of my male escort friends on my business/semi-personal account and she also follows me there. I didn't want her and the people I do business with to start asking me questions, even though I have 1,400+ followers so far.

There is a side of me that is torn about what I have done. I don't regret it, but I still have that "traditional" side of me that longs for a long-term relationship with one man, maybe even marriage, or a family, although I've resisted having children (I may skimp on various other areas of my life, but the one thing I am "religious" about is birth control). I don't know if I'll ever have kids. If I do, it would have to be with someone really special that I could see myself growing old with.

My parents are divorced. Hell, most of the people I know come from broken homes. Ironically, my views of marriage have changed since I've been single. I've never felt so strongly about monogamy, commitment, and marriage than ever before. I'm all for it. I know a couple I've been working with here in Vegas on some business projects and they are two of the sweetest people that I know. I see how happy, positive, and in love they are after being together for six years. I really hope they make it and nothing bad ever happens to their marriage. I hope I can celebrate their diamond wedding anniversary with them. My first ex and I talked about marriage, but we never took steps to make it a reality.

I've always been in long-term relationships. I have trouble with one-night stands. I wish I could be hard emotionally and not feel anything, but it's tough. I met a guy through CL from Florida who posted an ad in the "Casual Encounters" section. I've always had a fantasy about hooking up with a stranger and going up with him to his hotel room. I thought I could handle it. "No big deal, I'll have my fun, and leave. People do it all the time. After all, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, right?" Wrong. I should have known what I was getting into, but I thought I would come out of it emotionally unscathed.

I should have gotten the heads up that he called himself by a pseudonym instead of his real name in his email (which I found out later when I met him in person), and that he had a quote from Cool Hand Luke on his voicemail instead of his own voice (seriously). We met at New York New York where he was staying (I have a real aversion to that place now) and we had lunch at the Chinese restaurant there. He seemed intelligent, well-spoken, interested in what I had to say, and was a good listener (all the hallmarks of a true player - the less you mention about sex, the better - right, fellas?). He told me he was divorced. Who knows if he was telling the truth?

Afterwards we went to the bar and had a drink. Ironically, I was the one who mentioned sex first, but I suspect this was his M.O. all along, to use reverse psychology to get me to go to bed with him. When we kissed, it was just okay. I never kissed someone who smoked before, but it wasn't too bad. The only thing that bothered me was that I tried to embrace him and he didn't embrace me back. I should have stopped right then and there. I'm a naturally affectionate person, and I like to hold someone, regardless if I'm in love with him or not. Nevertheless, I let him have his way with me anyway.

It wasn't too terrible. He was adequate and he did please me to some degree. He kept asking me if I wanted him to stop. By then I was already too aroused to tell him no, so I let him keep going. The actual act was nothing to write home about. He was "meh". He got what he wanted and I felt like I would never see him again. He did ask if he could call me the next day, but I told him I was going to my friend's baby shower (which was true).

The day after that I tried to call him and sent him an email. He didn't call me back, but he did send an email back saying he wasn't available and he was going to try to come back to Vegas in the future, but he never did. I made the mistake of liking him and having feelings for him, so it hurt when he never contacted me again. I did, however, give him a piece of my mind in an angry email that he never answered.

Ever since that experience, one night stands are out for me. If that's your cup of tea, more power to you, but I can't deal with them. I felt like I had been used for a piece of ass. When my mom found out, she freaked (unfortunately, she came to live with me for an extended period of time - long story). I will NEVER mention my sex life to my mom again. How mortifying! :-(

I feel guilty for deceiving her, making up lies so I could go out with my companions, and for hiding this secret from my closest friends, but I have to. I can't possibly tell them. It's fun to keep a secret, in a way, because it's something "forbidden" in my mind that no one knows about, but at the same time, I don't like lying to anyone, especially those I love and care about. Since my mom's been living with me, I feel like a rebellious teenager again. When I was living alone, the thought of hiring an escort was something I never acted upon. Life is funny sometimes, huh?

Which brings me back to my original topic - hiring companions. Obviously I was extremely happy and satisfied with my last encounter and I plan many more in the future, but I know it cannot last forever. (Plus, it can be very expensive, and I'm certainly not wealthy - at least, not yet). Honestly, all I want is someone to be there with me everyday, not just for an evening, but for a lifetime. Not just for flirting and sexual adventures, but the real thing.

So I compartmentalize my life and feel like I have a split personality - the "good girl" who searches for true love, faithfulness, and a steady, solid relationship and the sexually-charged, flirtatious, "bad girl" siren part of me that enjoys having these secret trysts that no one knows about. One day I hope to share the good and bad sides of my personality with one very lucky man. :-)

It's all very strange and new to me, but I plan to enjoy it as much as I can. It's better than being hurt by a stranger, that's for sure.

The extreme case - "Bad Girl" by Madonna, co-starring Christopher Walken, directed by David Fincher from Erotica (1992). Anyone who said she was a bad actress apparently never saw this music video.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Finding a straight male escort - Where do you begin and what to look out for

So you're sitting in front of the computer, or you have the yellow pages in front of you, or one of those free magazines that advertise "Alternative Lifestyles" in the back columns, or something to that effect? How does a woman go about looking for a straight male escort? It can be really nerve-wracking and scary. I totally understand where you're coming from. There's tons of advice out there for men looking for female providers, but the concept of women hiring men is relatively new. This is how I did it.

Well, let's start with the trusty old search engine, Google. I did a search for "male escorts" at first, but I kept getting a lot of sites like Adult Friend Finder or something similar, but not what I was looking for. I didn't want just some random booty call. Again, I searched Craigslist, but I didn't trust the men on there.

I looked in my local yellow pages (and the Entertainment section is literally hundreds of pages long with tons of advertisements for escorts in Vegas), but they were mainly women, and the men who were advertised in it were clearly gay. I refined my search to include "straight male escorts for women", or something similar, and I started to find more websites of men that were closer to what I wanted, but not quite. I found one provider (I won't mention his name here) but what he had to say about his clients was so disrespectful and demeaning to women, plus his prices were outrageous. He seemed to show up as one of the first, if not the first result that came up.

I found directories with straight male escorts, but the men on there did not look any better than your typical, garden-variety, wannabe gigolo you could find on CL. I did find a provider here in Vegas whose prices were right, but he made me feel icky. It was obvious he used his camera phone to take pictures and it was very unprofessional. Another guy was on a lot of the other directories as well, but he wasn't my type - too buff (I don't like beefcake all that much). Nevertheless, the search went on.

Finally, I landed on a website for Companion X (his name is kept anonymous for personal reasons - in a future post I will tell you all about my experience with him). Although he was handsome, his bio was impressive, and he had a lovely website, I still had my doubts. The website looked really good - in fact, it looked too good - it was almost fake-looking. I wasn't sure if he was legit. If I am going to give thousands of dollars of my hard-earned money to a stranger, he'd better be legit and not some scam.

So I Googled the hell out of him. I couldn't find any reviews, which made me suspicious, but I didn't find anything unsavory about him either, so I took a chance and sent him the dreaded first email. Within twenty-four hours I had a response from him. After a couple of emails, he trusted me enough to give me his phone number, and we kept in touch until our date.

Don't be surprised if your escort Googles you as well, or wants to check an employment reference. He also wants to know that he's dealing with a real client and that you're not law enforcement. It is a good rule of thumb to keep in regular contact with your companion. Let him get to know you, so you both feel like you have a chemistry, friendship, and camaraderie with each other when you finally meet in person.

Also, think of your budget and the time you will spend with him. Obviously it depends on what you want to hire him for. Personally, if I feel good talking to him on the phone and through email, and that chemistry carries over in real life, I would hire my companion for a minimum of twenty-four hours. This will give you plenty of time to be comfortable with him, have plenty of fun, and a sense of intimacy between the two of you.

The last time I hired my companion we spent about sixteen hours together, which was actually longer than the time I hired him for (twelve to fourteen hours), we had so much fun and it was still not enough time for more "uplifting" moments. ;-)

It is a very good sign that he has professionally-done pictures on his website, a blog, or Twitter, to show you that he is indeed a real person, and not law enforcement himself (believe me, that was one of my concerns too - am I going to be arrested if I do this?). Ask him to provide you with references or reviews from past clients. He will be more than happy to do so if you are serious about hiring him.

His bio will also tell you a lot about him. Even though one companion may be drop-dead gorgeous, he might not be a good fit for you, but another one who catches your eye will. Do you want a guy-next-door type, someone laid-back, fun, and relaxed? Or someone more sophisticated, cultured, worldly, and mysterious? The style of his website will be a good indicator of the type of man you imagine yourself with for the evening.

Above all, please have respect for your companion. He is still a human being, not a sex toy. He will do what you ask of him (within reason). If he is uncomfortable with something, you will be uncomfortable as well, and you don't want that. You want to have the highest quality experience because you are rewarding and pampering yourself. He is there to do all he can to make you feel special because you deserve it.

Is it illegal to hire a male escort, you may be asking yourself? No, because you are paying for his time and companionship ONLY. Anything else that should happen is between you and him, and it is a private matter between consenting adults. He won't discuss anything illegal that may possibly compromise him and he cares very much about discretion. Whatever does happen, rest assured you are with a pro and he will make you feel wanted, desired, and needed, something "regular" men may be clueless about. Happy hunting! :-D