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Thursday, September 17, 2009

How to find the right male companion for you

Since I've been hiring male escorts, I've noticed more and more gentlemen are coming out of the woodwork to promote themselves for hire on the internet. This is definitely a good thing because now there are more yummy hot guys to choose from! Believe me, I wish there had been this many when I was looking last spring - it would have made it a hell of a lot easier, or more difficult, if you think about it, because it would've taken more time to get to know some of them before I made my decision.

All of the gentlemen are unique in their own way and market themselves as such. Some are more traditional and sophisticated, some of them are more relaxed and casual. The most gorgeous one with the best website doesn't necessarily mean he's going to be the right one for you. The one who's the most smooth-talking and refined may not be the right one either. The one who has the best deal as far as his donation doesn't mean he's worth the investment. In fact, I may hire someone who's more expensive, but is giving me a better quality experience in the long run. It's like a seeing a full-price item that is of good quality as opposed to one that's on sale that may not be of the same quality. You may decide the full price item gives you greater value.

So how can you tell if you're going to get a dud or a stud? The number one question a client will ask, regardless of what business it is or what product or service is offered will be, "What's in it for me?" How will they know how to make you as an individual feel special and unique, instead of feeling like a notch in one long expensive belt?

Sure, they can all tell you the same thing, that they're the perfect male companion to spend an evening with, that they will make you feel pampered, relaxed, and happy. Some of their websites will be more impressive than others. Pay close attention to how the website is set up. Are they lighthearted in their approach, or more mysterious? Color has a lot to do with it. Look at the color scheme of the website (color is more psychological than we think it is). Do the colors feel warm and pleasant, or are they cold and impersonal? Does the language they use convey a fun, relaxed, playful mood, or is it designed to be more urbane, refined, and stylish?

The only way to really tell is to email and talk to the ones that strike a chord with you. Shop around. Don't agree to hire the first one that answers you back right away. The more you peel back the layers, the more you may discover this man is not your cup of tea. If you go ahead and decide to do it anyway, you may have a negative experience like I had with Companion X, and at the end of it, you'll regret what you did and feel like you wasted your hard-earned money. Personality is the biggest asset the guys have to sell themselves. I don't care what anybody says. Looks are not always the best indicator, neither is the coolest-looking website. If your potential client isn't comfortable with your approach, you can kiss her goodbye.

The biggest mistake a gentleman can make - actually, the two biggest mistakes are automatically assuming she's sold on you right from the first email and she's ready to hire you (remember, she may be looking at your competitors online who may be a better fit for her), and assuming what her financial position is (I'll go into the financial part of it in greater detail in a future blog). It's Sales 101. If I pushed products and talked them up right when the customer came into my store, it would make them run out so fast your damn head would spin. Also, you never know what kind of money she has to spend, so never, ever judge unless she explicitly tells you, "You know what, you're rates are a little bit higher than what I wanted to pay, sorry."

The way I learned to sell to people is indirectly. Lower their defenses, make the customer see you as a human being instead of a salesperson, and you'll have him or her eating out of the palm of your hand. So we learned to open the sale with non-business opening lines. Talk about everything but the product. People love to talk about themselves. It's human nature. We are all inherently narcissistic, even the most modest person. So if you can get your lady to see you as a normal, regular guy underneath the suave gigolo persona, you've got it made. (At least that's how I would want it to be).

A lady and her companion should ideally get to know one another first through their correspondence so it can be a better indicator of how their date will be when they meet in person. Think about how you feel when you talk to him. Are you relaxed and comfortable, or do your instincts tell you that something's not right? Does he suggest things that you aren't comfortable with? Does he allow you to take charge and suggest your own ideas of what you want to do when you spend time with him? If you don't feel entirely comfortable, then don't do it. Keep looking for someone else, talk to more than one if necessary, and then when you're comfortable enough with the "right one", enjoy your time with him! :-)

Men have it far easier than women when it comes to hiring escorts. For centuries men have had the luxury of concubines, mistresses, courtesans, etc. as I mentioned in a previous post. Women didn't have those luxuries until recently. Men can talk about it with other men, but ladies, is this something you can easily discuss, even with your closest girlfriends? Even I can't discuss it with my best girlfriend I've known for years who's like my sister. Men hire female escorts basically for one purpose. I'm pretty sure you know what it is. I'm not sure if men necessarily want to get to know their female companions. Some of them may, but some of them just want to get right down to business.

But we women want the total quality experience. This is exactly what you pay for when you hire a gentleman. He has to give you something your regular, inept, garden-variety husband, boyfriend, or would-be suitor cannot. He will be charming, romantic, attentive to details, take his time, and fulfill your fantasy. It's all about having fun and being treated like a queen. So if you are going to make this important decision, you want to make sure you're going to find the man who's right for you. It's like a new form of dating that isn't traditional, so it can be a difficult decision for you to make. Trust me, when you find the right companion, you'll feel like you've died and gone to heaven. I wouldn't be saying this if it wasn't the honest to God truth.

Good luck and I hope you find the right companion out there for you! :-D