Discussing companionship with people in real life

Should you do it?

That's up to you. For a long time I was reluctant to tell anyone in my real life about hiring male escorts. I just felt it was my business even though I'm sharing my experience with total strangers on the internet. After a while, the secret became too much to bear and last month during Thanksgiving, when I was struggling with personal issues, I told my best friend who's been like a brother to me for 11 years.

Did I feel better about it? Strangely enough, I did. He didn't judge or condemn me for what I've been doing and I'm glad he was so understanding. I'm sure if I told him months ago when I first did it, his reaction would have been the same. He's told me personal things about his life and vice-versa, so it's only natural he would be open-minded about it. He's even thinking about becoming a male companion himself. I emailed him some resources if he ever wanted to get something started, but he's more of a one-woman man, so I doubt he'll ever go through with the idea. Would be nice, though, because he'd be the first gentleman of color in the profession (out of all the ones I know of), which I believe a lot of ladies out there would appreciate very much. ;-)

If you do choose to share the "secret" with people you know well and trust, it really isn't such a bad thing. In fact, you will feel a sense of lightness after you share your story, almost like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. If you have female friends who really dig the idea, you could always point them in the right direction as far as which male companion would be the right fit for them if they're thinking about hiring someone special for a fun evening too.

Except me - I'm selfish - just kidding. ;-P