The Companionista

Male Companion Review - "Str8 Male" from Vegas

2012-01-23T23:49:00.000-08:00

Ladies, I'm excited to tell you all about a new tall, dark, handsome male companion in Las Vegas! His nickname is "Str8 Male" for now till he establishes an internet presence. Despite his enigmatic moniker, there's no mystery about this man (unless you want him to be - *wink wink*). He's charming, cute, classy, smart, and easy to talk to. His look is a cross between Will Smith and Taye Diggs from the film How Stella Got Her Groove Back, complete with a sexy Caribbean accent. If you're looking for an exotic black gentleman to spend some quality time with (and there's definitely a need of one online!), Str8 Male is your guy.

We met at Eyecandy Lounge at Mandalay Bay last weekend. Since I knew it was going to be a meet-and-greet, I didn't feel nervous at all. I'm sure if I was hiring him for an engagement I would've been, but once he greeted me with his dazzling smile, I immediately felt comfortable. Over drinks we discussed my experiences hiring male companions, about my blog, why he decided to get into the profession, and how excited he is to start meeting potential female clients in Vegas. He also asked plenty of questions about my life, and I felt I could trust him enough to tell him about some personal issues I've gone through. Usually it takes some time for me to open up to someone, but he seems so down-to-earth and grounded; I didn't have any reservations at all. If I hired him, I feel very confident we would've had a wonderful time.

So, if you're interested in hiring Str8 Male for a romantic rendezvous in Sin City or in your hometown (he is available for travel), please contact me and I will forward your information to him. He looks forward to chatting with you! :-)

New Email Form

2012-01-23T23:00:00.000-08:00

I had problems with the old contact form and have replaced it with a new one. I tested it and it seems to be working much better. If you need to contact me, please click on the pic of the Vegas couple on the right-hand side. You will be taken to the email form.

I got a nice email from a lady named Scarlett over the weekend. Scarlett, if you're reading this, I tried to email you back, but I got an "undeliverable" message. Please try to contact me again and I will answer you ASAP. Thanks! :-)

Sexy Video Sunday - New Order - "World (The Price of Love)"

2012-01-22T22:12:00.000-08:00

A haunting music video by New Order, one of my favorite bands. It's a track from their brilliant 1993 album Republic. All four band members make cameo appearances throughout. If you pay close attention, especially toward the end, you will understand what the storyline is.

"If we could buy it now, how long will it last?"

Veruca Salt vs. Pussycat Dolls - "Don't Cha Wish Your Seether Was a Freak Like Me"

2012-01-18T02:07:00.000-08:00

I had to post this mashup. One of my favorites. ;-)

Sexy Video Sunday - Traci Lords - "Last Drag" - Directed by Zalman King

2012-01-08T22:12:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year 2012!

I hope you all had a wonderful New Year's celebration. I thought I'd share a sexy new video by Traci Lords, former underage porn queen turned actress/dance diva (and an idol of mine). I had no idea she had a new single out until I looked her up on Spotify and found this track called "Last Drag".

Directed by Zalman King (9 1/2 Weeks, Wild Orchid, Two Moon Junction, the Red Shoe Diaries series), it's a very sensual video with a still hot-looking 43-year-old Traci. If you have a nylon, cross-dressing, or smoking fetish (or all three!), you'll enjoy this guilty-pleasure revenge tune. When I first heard it I immediately thought of Debbie Harry from Blondie. Why this song isn't all over the Top 40 and in the clubs is a crime. So what if she was in porn when she was 15? LOL. ;-) Let the past be the past already!

Enjoy! :-D

Atonement

2011-10-23T21:42:00.000-07:00

I removed "My First Time With a Male Companion" blog post. I received an extremely vicious and scathing comment from someone this morning that felt like a knife in my heart. I didn't want any more negativity arising from what I wrote, so I removed it. I think that was the poster's aim in the first place, to get me to do that.

Again, I had no idea when I wrote about my negative experience with Companion X two years I go I would get so much flak from it. All I wanted to do was share my experience, however disappointing, with other women out there to show the other side of the coin. It was my side of the story, I told it, and I thought that would be the end of it. I never thought people who didn't know me would judge me so harshly, but that's what happened.

I'm the type of person that says exactly what's on my mind and I try not to sugarcoat the truth. I only regret that I posted my experience online. Perhaps I should not have done it in hindsight, but yet, maybe the negative comments were to be expected. I know comments from strangers shouldn't bother me, but it did. Today I felt so depressed and upset, but as I started to think about it, I'm only letting those strangers on the internet have power over me by bringing me down.

Like I said in my previous post, I have made mistakes. Nobody's perfect. I know who I am and this is just one stranger's opinion (or interpretation) of what happened to me. The poster said I had to "grow up to own up" and they had "less respect" for me after reading my post. It doesn't matter if I gain this person's respect because I will never know who he/she is anyway.

The only person I have to "own up" to is me.

A Learning Experience

2011-08-26T13:29:00.000-07:00

I was alerted to a blog post I wrote two years ago about my negative experience with Companion X by a client of his who wanted to protect his reputation. She had a perfect right to do so. After having a conversation with X, I decided the post will remain where it is. That's how I felt at the time and I was only being honest about how everything really was for me. I believe we learn something from both positive and negative experiences. We were able to straighten everything out and I have a new found respect for him because of it.

Over the last two years that I've been involved in the world of companionship, I have experienced both pleasurable and painful times. There's a saying that goes: "Don't regret anything because at the time that was exactly what you wanted." So I have decided to tell myself, no regrets. Although I never intended to get as deeply involved in this world as I have, there was a good reason why I did. If I can help anyone out there, whether it's a lady or couple looking to hire a male escort for the first time, a man who's thinking about being a male companion and wants to know where to start, male and female providers who've been in the profession for a while, or just some random person out there who's curious about my blog, it's all good with me. :-)

A couple of months ago I went to a swingers party in Pahrump with a good friend of mine. I'm not into the "lifestyle", but I decided to check it out. It was "slow" that night, so there was really no action going on. This was shortly before the Fourth of July, so that may have been the reason. One of the hosts of the party had a little debate with me about the lifestyle versus hiring a professional. He asked me, "Why go through all the trouble of hiring a guy when you can find someone at one of our parties?"

My answer was simple: "Because I'm looking for an experience. I want to hire someone for the evening that will be attentive to me, take me out to a nice dinner, fancy hotel, drinks, dancing, the works. Someone of quality, high class, well-dressed, and well-mannered. Yeah, you could find someone at the swinger's club to hook up with, but it doesn't necessarily mean he will have all these qualities. What's wrong with paying for it? If that's what people are into, I don't think there's a problem."

His wife then told me of an experience she had with a gentleman (she didn't say he was a pro) who took her out for a night of dinner and dancing, then she spent the night with him in his suite at the Wynn. They didn't use their real names. Surprisingly, he wanted to know her name, but she refused to give it to him because it would ruin the fantasy.

The host told me he used to be a male escort. He was very good at it and made a lot of money. But he said it was very difficult because there's a lot of pressure to be this "perfect" fantasy figure for every client. Every client is different, so the companion has to play a role of what she expects him to be. He said something interesting, though. He said, "There were certain things that I couldn't do. There was this gray area and it was very difficult for me."

I didn't mention my experience, but I knew exactly what it meant. He didn't have to explain any more. With that being said, my blog also serves as a cautionary tale.

This blog will be here for as long I feel the need to help others through what I've learned from my personal experience. Thank you again for reading it. I appreciate and welcome all your comments.

Quiz: What's Your Orgasmic Type?

2011-06-27T13:21:00.000-07:00

I found this through a fan page called Bliss Connection on Facebook. I thought it was insightful and interesting and I wanted to share my results with you.

Your orgasmic flavor is: SEDUCTIVE

You are playful, fun and sexy. You love to tease and being teased. You value play and interactive engagement. You like to be engaged and are easily distracted by new shiny objects. This can be a block in receiving the level of deep connection that will keep you satiated for a long time. Come back to simplicity. Bring your attention back to the simple, intimate connection of touch or of the moment.

If you'd like to take the quiz yourself, it's on this website: http://www.onetaste.us/oquiz.php. Any tidbit of information on how people can improve their sexuality always resonates positively with me. ;-)

Sexy Video Sunday - Enigma vs. Madonna - "The Enigma Within" (Robin Skouteris Mix)

2011-06-26T13:50:00.000-07:00

"Erotica" is by far my favorite Madonna song. The Sex period of her career in the early 90s was her most experimental and turned out some of her best work, in my opinion. While looking for remix and mashup videos of "Erotica", I happened to find this sexy video by a DJ named Robin Skouteris. It has elements of Madonna's "Erotica", "Justify My Love", "The Beast Within", and Enigma's "Mea Culpa". The visuals are stunning, sensual, and extremely erotic. This is the perfect song to play at a club or as background music during an intimate evening with a special someone. Robin also has other amazing remix videos on her Youtube channel: http://www.youtube.com/robinsk.

EDIT: I was going to wait until next Sunday to post this video, but it's beyond awesome. I'm going to throw in Robin's Madonna Queen of Pop Megamix as a bonus. Enjoy! :-D

The Return of Sexy Video Sunday! ABC - "Vanity Kills" (1985)

2011-06-19T17:05:00.000-07:00

I just discovered this video, but I've been a big fan of the New Wave band ABC for years. The blonde with the big hair in this video is extremely hot. They just don't make stylish, sophisticated productions like this anymore, but I've been in a never-ending state of nostalgia for the 80s since the 90s LOL. :-)

I had the honor of meeting the lead singer, Martin Fry, last night after the free concert ABC gave at the Fremont Street Experience. Nina Blackwood, one of the early MTV VJs, is hosting a concert series with some of the best 80s acts all summer long. I knew I couldn't miss it and I was so glad to get a pic with Martin and his autograph! It was one of the best nights of my life! :-D

Vanity Kills (US Version) from ABC on Vimeo.

Heineken "Open Your World" ad campaign - "The Golden Age"

2011-06-11T01:24:00.000-07:00

This is the full version of the Heineken commercial that's been playing on TV quite a bit. I thought it was kind of strange and quirky when I first saw it, but the more I watch it, the more it grows on me. I read it's an homage to various Hollywood characters of the past along with a handsome, dashing hero. The Asteroids Galaxy Tour is the band featured in the video that perform the song "The Golden Age", which is about wanting to return to the past. There's tons of assorted vintage references in the lyrics like "hang with the rats and smoke cigars", "dressed to the nines", and "Sally Bowles in Cabaret".

My interpretation is that it's the coolest party in the world and everyone's invited! Enjoy. :-)

How do I look?

2011-06-10T02:41:00.000-07:00

I decided it was time to revamp the look of my blog. I had the same minimalist layout for two years and it was time for a change. While playing around with the new templates I discovered this Vegas-style background and pretty much kept the black and gray colors I used on the old blog. It's definitely more me.

Here's Dimitri from Paris's "Une Very Stylish Fille" just for the heck of it. (Because "I am a very stylish girl!") ;-)

Shauna Grant as Virginia (1983) - A review of an erotic film classic

2011-05-21T01:22:00.000-07:00

From time to time I like to post about topics other than male companionship in my blog. Last night I saw a "vintage" (by today's standards) porn film called Virginia starring Shauna Grant. She was one of the biggest adult film actresses in the early 80s until her tragic death from a suicide in 1984 cut short her troubled but fascinating life. I would like to share my thoughts and feelings about the film with you.

I had always been interested in Shauna and had read about Virginia until I finally decided to download it. If you're used to watching too many inane hardcore gonzo pornos where they start going at it like rabbits in five seconds, this movie is not for you. This movie came out during porn's "Golden Age" (70s/early-to-mid-80s) when there were actually production values, scripts, plot lines, and the performers were required to act like in a mainstream Hollywood movie. Yes, there are still big budget porn films still being made today, but they're not as prominent as they were "back in the day" when they were still shot on film.

In my opinion the earlier adult films were more experimental and edgier than anything you see today. Shauna plays the title role, an innocent, naive, virginal young girl who struggles to repress her feelings of erotic love for her own father, Jonathan Glass, played by Paul Thomas. Such taboo topics like incest or underage teen sex were quite common in those days. Today such themes aren't explored as much, if at all, as far as I know.

Virginia is an underrated film. It's not as famous as Deep Throat, Behind the Green Door, or The Devil in Miss Jones, but it's right up there with them, as far as I'm concerned. I liked how the women were natural and didn't shave. They weren't all cookie-cutter with fake boobs, and didn't wear those stupid plastic high heels. Even though it's a strange film, I found myself interested in the plot as much as the sex. There's an underlying theme to Virginia that's psychological. The less I say about it, the better, but this final unraveling of the true plot line totally blew me away because it was so damn creative - and I never would've guessed!

The final sex scene between Virginia and Jonathan was incredible. It really made me feel something other than being turned on. I felt nervous knowing the two characters about to consummate their forbidden love were father and daughter. I also felt such sadness to the point that I started to cry. Everything I have read about Shauna and how she ended up just makes the the scene even more poignant and heartbreaking to watch. How could such a beautiful girl be destroyed?

The scene is like a romantic fantasy come to life, a rarity in adult films. We actually see Jonathan seducing Virginia, and plenty of foreplay before the main event. The director made the camera moves slow and deliberate. There's no rush, and it may seem slow to people who aren't used to this kind of romanticism and true passion, which is what made it so wonderful to watch.

It has been said Shauna didn't like having sex on camera very much, that she lacked enthusiasm during her scenes. She certainly fooled me in this one. I don't care what kind of scene it is - to play love, you must feel it. There is no faking it to make it look convincing to your audience. Paul and Shauna had amazing chemistry and understood the maturity and depth of feeling it took to act in this scene, to the point where it doesn't even feel like acting - that's how real it is. I think they both had balls to pull it off. That is the closest to lovemaking (not just two pros fucking) I have ever seen in an porn movie that it is almost an insult to call it one. I would say Virginia is a classic of erotica, at least this particular scene is. Nothing this lovely and tender that has been captured onscreen could ever be considered bad or dirty.

If you're curious about classic adult films, you should definitely check this one out just for the Grant/Thomas scene alone (if the idea of incest doesn't bother you too much). This film has become of one my favorites.

Here's a rare interview of Shauna from 1983 with her agent, Bobby Hollander, and porn legend Jamie Gillis.

Dude, where's my male escort?

2011-05-19T11:55:00.000-07:00

Spotted this mobile billboard (253-DUDE) by the Stratosphere as I was waiting for the Express bus one night after work. I don't know if this agency is a gay male escort agency, or if it was truly revolutionary, a straight one, which would be the first of its kind in Clark County that I know of. I got a kick out of it nonetheless and I had to snap a pic.

And no, I didn't call the number. LOL. ;-)

"I love you, you pay my rent..."

2011-04-25T21:01:00.000-07:00

Reminiscing...

I may be returning. I haven't decided yet. Perhaps when the time is right.

Lady Luck has left the building...

2010-06-06T21:24:00.000-07:00

This blog will no longer be updated for personal reasons. When I started this blog last summer, I didn't think it would come to this point, but I feel like the time is right. It was a difficult decision, but I have to do what is right for me.

For those of you who have supported me (both companions and ladies alike), I appreciate your kind words and appreciation for what I have done to support the world of companionship this past year. If I have helped you in any way, then I have done my job. I am eternally grateful to you all.

There are other priorities in my life that are more important to me right now.

I do not discourage any lady from hiring a gentleman companion. Life is too short not to experience new things. I am grateful for the experience I had, whether it was positive or negative. I made mistakes - I am not perfect. Whatever I did, I learned from my experience and then some.

Remember, ladies, you are NUMBER ONE. You are beautiful!

I will continue to keep my friendships I have made through being in this world. I look back on both of my engagements with happy, beautiful, warm, and wonderful memories that I will treasure forever in my heart for the rest of my life.

Thank you.

*Takes a bow*

"True happiness comes from within. It can't be bought or sold. It really is a personal issue." --Unknown

Male escorts in popular culture: Example #4 - Secret Diary of a Call Girl

2010-03-23T21:53:00.000-07:00

I just happened to catch a series on Showtime over the weekend called Secret Diary of a Call Girl. It is based on the memoirs of a young lady from the UK named Hannah, who uses the nom de plume, Belle du Jour. She works as a high-class escort and every episode focuses on a chapter she writes about her experiences in her personal and professional life.

I have never seen the series before, even though I've heard the name Belle du Jour in the past. This particular episode I wanted to check out because it featured a male escort. Hannah has never experienced being a client before and decides to do some "research" for her book.

She meets her companion at his in-call and right away she is very nervous. It's never specified how long she hires him for, but it must not have been for very long since he proposes taking a shower five minutes after meeting her! She decides not to join him, but opts to watching him butt-ass naked! I could tell she felt quite awkward. Afterward, she dries him off and they proceed to the bed.

After messing around for a little bit, she freaks out and tells him she doesn't know if she can go through with it. She says she has a boyfriend and she feels she would be unfaithful to him if she went any further. He says that women who are in relationships or who are married see him all the time and she's doing the right thing because she doesn't want to have an affair.

He starts making out with her, but she stops him once again. She confesses she's an escort too and she hired him so she could do research for her book. At first he's upset, but she explains she would never reveal his name and everything she writes about him would be anonymous. Once she convinces him everything would be okay, she tells him, "Show me what you've got." They resume their tryst and have a wonderful time.

She debates whether or not she should lie and say her companion was a lousy lay, but she decides against it and writes the truth: her companion taught her more about the pleasures of her body than all her clients combined and he was extraordinary. Meanwhile, her boyfriend Duncan hires a female companion behind her back. When they are finished having sex, they make plans for another engagement. Hannah calls Duncan and inadvertently blurts out that she loves him.

She emails the chapter she wrote about her male escort experience to Duncan. He's shocked at her honesty at first, but goes to Hannah's apartment to talk about it. He starts becoming aroused at the thought of her being with another man and they start to make love on the sofa. He begins to ask her questions like, "Did it feel good when he pinned you down?" She freaks out and tells him stop talking about her companion. She says it would make her feel too much like he's fucking "Belle" instead of who she really is. They both start to feel awkward and agree not to discuss it anymore.

He also confesses that he loves her and they begin to make love again. They're interrupted by one of Hannah's friends, who is also an escort. She came over to show Hannah her wedding dress. It turns out this is the same woman Duncan hired behind Hannah's back! *Dum dum DUM! Insert dramatic cheesy music here* LOL.

Now, I'm not sure if I will keep watching this series, but it raised a lot of questions in my mind about fidelity and the concept of having an open relationship. It's obvious Duncan knows what she does and is accepting of it. Why isn't he honest with her about hiring escorts too? If he loves his girl, why does he have to hire other women behind her back when he can get all the pussy he wants for free? (Pardon my euphemistic French, LOL). Is he the type of man who can't be satisfied with only one woman? Even so, would she not be as accepting of what he did as he was when she told him she hired a male escort? Like I said, I don't know the series very well, but even in a relationship that seems so open, they still felt weird about the whole male escort thing. I just thought the whole scenario was kind of strange, but that's just me. :-)

As far as the escort Hannah hired, he wasn't all that. I wouldn't have hired him if I was her. ("This was the best guy she could find?" I thought.) When he told her she was beautiful, I felt he was being insincere. ("Yeah, right. You just want her for her money, jerkoff.") If it was me and we only had a couple of hours together, he should *at least* have a substantial conversation with me before wanting to jump in the shower right away. Jesus, buddy! Can't you wait one frickin' minute? LOL. Hannah herself said that the art of seduction for a female companion is taking off her clothes slowly, one article at a time, and that he had a LOT to learn. I completely agree.

Second, shower etiquette requires (at least my own personal shower etiquette LOL) that it should take place after sex, not before. He was cute, but he seemed like kind of a ditz, even if he did claim to know web design (uh huh, that's what they all say LOL). He also used some bad come-on lines too. Even if he was a fantastic lay, he seemed unprofessional. Maybe he was a newbie.

Overall, the episode had its funny moments, but it also made me kind of sad in a way because of Hannah and Duncan's complicated predicament. The sex scenes were hot and it seems like a decent series to pass the time if there's nothing else better to watch on TV.

How Long Should You Hire a Companion?

2010-03-18T20:47:00.000-07:00

So now that you've shopped around and found a few guys that caught your attention, the next question is, how long should you hire a male companion for?

It really all depends on several factors. The biggest one is money. Obviously, you should pick a gentleman who has rates that meet the needs of your budget. If he lives abroad, the cost will go up depending upon the conversion rate and if you have to pay for his travel expenses. If he lives in the U.S., he may still charge you for travel rates and any other expenses that occur during your date.

Secondly, how comfortable do you feel getting to know him through email and over the phone? Do you feel any kind of chemistry or connection with him, or do you still have your doubts? If you're still not sure, either you have to talk to someone else before you make a decision, or you may still give him a try and hire him for a bare minimum of an hour. If after an hour or less you're not "feeling" him, you have a perfect right to end the date. After all, without you, the client, he cannot earn his livelihood. You are NUMBER ONE. Always remember that. He is there to please you and make you as happy as possible. Be a little selfish! LOL. Remember, this type of man is meant to devote all his attention to you because you're worth it.

My first time hiring a companion, I was at a distinct disadvantage. Last year after what I thought was an extensive Google search, I could only find a handful of straight male escorts. Three of them lived abroad and I felt their rates were too expensive for me at the time. I chose the gentleman I eventually ended up hiring because he lived close to Vegas, his rates were reasonable enough for the time I wanted (12-14 hours - in retrospect that was WAAAAY too long), and I couldn't find anyone else. I should have just hired him for 1-4 hours, just long enough to spend a little time with him, have a couple of drinks, and dinner. Even if I did that, it still wouldn't have done enough to improve things. I probably should have prolonged my search since there's a lot more gentlemen to choose from now.

Never underestimate the power of chemistry. In a situation like this, it is extremely important you get along with your companion. Actually, "getting along" is not even enough. That is an understatement. He should be your fantasy come to life.

Ladies, always trust your feminine intuition. We weren't born with our "sixth sense" for nothing! The ideal scenario is that you will feel like you're not with him because you hired him for his time, or that he's performing a "service" for you. You should feel like you're a woman and he's a man who have a genuine attraction for each other. You're both out to have an amazing time just like any other ordinary couple out for a night on the town. If the connection is established at the very beginning when you make the first contact, then it will be easy to measure how much time you need to make your first date as memorable and pleasurable as possible. Then it's a no-brainer if that happens. Believe me, I will be the first to tell you I was lucky enough to experience it myself. :-)

If you're new to hiring a male escort and you feel hesitant, shy, or nervous in any way, that is perfectly normal. Even though I've done it three times so far, I still get the feeling of butterflies in my stomach before a date. If you're not sure how to proceed, then hire him for the minimum time he offers. He may even offer to meet with you for coffee or a drink for free if he lives in your local area, or if he happens to be in the city you live in for a visit in between clients. He might offer a special cocktail package for a reasonable fee. Sometimes communication over the internet is not enough. If you find that meeting him in person eliminates any doubts you have about him, then you can make plans to extend the date.

The more you get to know him, the better it is to your advantage to hire him for longer engagements, if possible. If it were up to me and I had the money, I would go for a maximum of 24 hours to a whole weekend. If you've got the time, means, and desire to do this, go for it! You'll be glad you did. ;-)

Discussing companionship with people in real life

2009-12-22T11:04:00.001-08:00

Should you do it?

That's up to you. For a long time I was reluctant to tell anyone in my real life about hiring male escorts. I just felt it was my business even though I'm sharing my experience with total strangers on the internet. After a while, the secret became too much to bear and last month during Thanksgiving, when I was struggling with personal issues, I told my best friend who's been like a brother to me for 11 years.

Did I feel better about it? Strangely enough, I did. He didn't judge or condemn me for what I've been doing and I'm glad he was so understanding. I'm sure if I told him months ago when I first did it, his reaction would have been the same. He's told me personal things about his life and vice-versa, so it's only natural he would be open-minded about it. He's even thinking about becoming a male companion himself. I emailed him some resources if he ever wanted to get something started, but he's more of a one-woman man, so I doubt he'll ever go through with the idea. Would be nice, though, because he'd be the first gentleman of color in the profession (out of all the ones I know of), which I believe a lot of ladies out there would appreciate very much. ;-)

If you do choose to share the "secret" with people you know well and trust, it really isn't such a bad thing. In fact, you will feel a sense of lightness after you share your story, almost like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. If you have female friends who really dig the idea, you could always point them in the right direction as far as which male companion would be the right fit for them if they're thinking about hiring someone special for a fun evening too.

Except me - I'm selfish - just kidding. ;-P

Creativity and Originality - Marketing to Female Clients

2009-12-10T21:11:00.000-08:00

I would like to address an issue tonight that has recently come to my attention - marketing to your female clients and how to effectively write creative, original copy for your website.

I have noticed a couple of companions recently that have blatantly copied other websites that I know of. Even my own words have been copied before, which is definitely not cool and notes a lack of professionalism on their part. When you copy someone else's words, it clearly demonstrates laziness and a lack of thought. It may seem like they're getting away with it, but eventually it will be found out sooner or later.

It is really a hindrance and a detriment to you. Think about who you copied. He spent a lot of time writing his words. If you cannot put forth your own effort into creating your website, how good of a companion are you going to be when you're out with a client? It may seem like I'm taking this too seriously, but it actually is a big deal, more than what I thought of until now.

Since I've been involved in this world, the number of male companions has increased steadily. I am glad there are a greater variety of men to choose from now because not every man can be for every woman. However, each man who decides to become a companion has something unique he can bring to his clients. Companies are always trying to find clever marketing strategies to make themselves stand out from their competitors. The business of companionship is no different.

This is the best advice I can give you as a new companion - WRITE YOUR OWN COPY! Think about it. Does it really benefit you to try to be like someone else? Do you think you have to fit into this image of what a male companion "should" be like? No, it does not. You can go onto other peoples' websites and get ideas, but it should really start with you. The concept of women hiring men may be new, but standing out from the "competition" is essential, no matter what the industry.

Because the internet is the way the majority of people communicate in the modern world, the very first impression your potential client will get is when she clicks onto your website. There should be enough information there to get a general sense of what you're like. I'm not saying you should write your life story, but ideally, something should "click" with her that will make her want to send that first email or make that first phone call. What is it? That's what you need to figure out - what makes you special and unique as an individual. Get feedback from others - you'd be surprised what people like and dislike when they browse through websites. Sit down and brainstorm. Write some words or phrases down. Or perhaps you can find someone who can write copy for you if writing is not your forte.

We all have qualities that make us stand out from the crowd. Think about what women have complimented you on in the past. What about your sense of humor? Is it witty, dry, goofy, playful, offbeat? What about your bio? What are your hobbies and interests? What is so different about you that should make your potential client want to hire you? How will you make her feel like she will have the time of her life? Why are you worth the investment? You are not only selling a service and the experience - you are really selling yourself.

How did my companion's website grab my attention? Well, for starters, it had a playful, flirtatious edge to it. I could really feel his personality and "voice" silently reaching out through the screen as I read his words. It may seem strange, but you need to find your own voice. Last fall I learned about this in my Digital Marketing class - the power of finding your own voice in order to grab your customers' attention.

Nowadays, people have short attention spans. It's the age of instant gratification. People want things NOW - at the click of a mouse. That includes a male escort. The voice may be "silent", but your client can still imagine it. You want to be the embodiment of all her dreams and fantasies, and no woman who decides to do this wants to feel like she's with just anybody. She wants to feel like she's with YOU - a sexy, one-of-a-kind, fascinating gentleman that is worth every penny.

Personal vs. Professional

2009-11-30T08:36:00.000-08:00

The more I learn about the profession of male companionship, the more it fascinates me. Because the dynamic between women who hire men is drastically different than men who hire women, this extends to the lines of communication between both parties. Today I would like to focus on this aspect of companionship. How do you handle the situation of getting too deeply involved in your companion's life and vice-versa?

Gentlemen must perform a delicate balancing act when it comes to this scenario. Say you've been out with your companion a couple of times. Everything has gone well and you want to keep the lines of communication open. Realize that he has other clients he must attend to and other things going on in his life. Like anyone else who performs a service (as cold as that may sound), you must wait and make an "appointment" of sorts to talk to him. It may not always be spontaneous - in fact, it can be quite sporadic. Understand that he is not your significant other. You cannot just pick up the phone and call unexpectedly like you would with a boyfriend. He can be your friend to some degree, but as far as communication, that is determined largely on his end.

I am not saying that companions and their clients do not or cannot keep in touch, but he has boundaries and rules about how personal he can be involved in your life, and vice-versa. Like when I went out with Companion X, he asked me several personal questions which I felt were, frankly, none of his business. There is only so much your gentleman will tell you about his life, and that is at his discretion. He is there for you in certain parts of your life, and not for others, and this is where you must respect his space, even though you may be curious to know more about him. That is only natural.

If you really like someone, of course you would want to get to know him further. Because women are more in-tune with their emotions, there is a tendency to become attached in this way with a man. If you find yourself doing this with your companion, you must back off and try to find other ways to keep busy to take your mind off him. Ultimately, he (or any man) will have more respect for you when he sees that he isn't the main focus in your life. Your main focus should be YOU.

This is where it gets tricky. Obviously, if you felt a genuine connection and chemistry there, it is only natural some kind of friendship and camaraderie will come out of it. Like any gentleman, companion or not, he needs his space. There are times when I need my space as well. Imagine if your companion was trying to call or email you all the time? Wouldn't that make you uncomfortable? Wouldn't that be tiresome? I believe it would. Remember that this is his "job". On some level he will treat it as a business, even though it is the business of pleasure, but it is still a business nonetheless. As much as you would like to make it more personal, ultimately it is his decision and you must respect that.

The best thing to do is wait for his lines of communication to open up to you. If there are any issues that you are concerned about, don't be afraid to let him know otherwise it will eat away at you. After all, on your next encounter, he wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable about anything. He is a good listener and is adept at handling any sort of concern. Chances are, he's been through it before. He wants to make sure that you are happy, even if you're struggling with a personal or emotional issue. Somehow both of you will be able to work things out and come to some sort of amicable solution.

Sexy Video Sunday: Paula Abdul - "The Way That You Love Me" (Version 2)

2009-11-15T11:52:00.000-08:00

Paula Abdul's debut album Forever Your Girl (1988) was a smash blockbuster hit, yielding several number one and top ten singles, including this one, "The Way That You Love Me". When she was really popular, I wasn't a fan, so it took me several years to really dig her music. I'm not a fan of her personally and I think her voice is high, whiny, and really doesn't have much range, but the beats, lyrics, and melody in this song is banging!

The video is even sexier. This single came out in 1989 and it's my favorite Paula song. It was kind of the "last hurrah" of the excessive, decadent, money and power-hungry 80s. (God, I miss those halcyon days!) Look at all the status symbols. You couldn't really make a video like this today because of the poor state of the economy. I always loved the imagery in the video and Paula looks smoking hot, as well as the guy in it who plays the wealthy, seductive businessman. This is actually the second version of the video, which I prefer more. The "hidden" message is that love is more important than money. Enjoy this old school blast from the past! ;-)

Male escorts in popular culture: Example #3 - Law and Order: Special Victims Unit (SVU)

2009-11-12T22:46:00.000-08:00

Last night I saw an episode of Law and Order: Special Victims Unit (SVU) that featured characters who were male escorts. It was totally by accident that I saw this particular episode since my mom happened to be watching it. I used to watch the show quite a bit until I became busier, but I still enjoy watching it from time to time.

The episode was called "Folly" from the show's earliest episodes during Season 2. I didn't see the very beginning of the show, but the gist of the plot is a male escort is almost beaten to death and another one is murdered. They are tied to a shady escort agency run by a greedy, ruthless, female pimp. Eventually the clues lead to a strange couple who have bizarre, twisted fantasies that have gone too far. SVU is my favorite in the Law and Order series, and the production, casting, and stories are top-notch. I tried to find a clip of the episode to embed on my blog, but I only found it on one site. For some odd reason the video won't play.

I don't want to give away too much of the story, but it was very interesting. True, it shows a negative, seedy, unrealistic side of the profession sensationalized for full dramatic effect, but it's still good to see stories about it on primetime TV. Slowly, but surely, the word is spreading in mainstream culture.

There were some good-looking guys in that episode, I'll say that much! ;-)

Strangers in the Night - My sexy second Vegas date with Smith

2009-11-09T22:09:00.000-08:00

Last night I had a wonderful evening with my companion, my darling, the lovely and charming Smith. :-)

I took the bus to the Strip and arrived early enough to change into my outfit in a restroom at the Forum Shops at Caesars. I couldn't get dressed at home since I didn't want my mom to know where I was going, so that's why I had to do it there. I was dressed to kill in a retro ensemble: a black Mad Men/60s-style dress, pearl jewelry, red stilettos (the same ones I wore on Halloween with my nurse's outfit), nude stockings with seams up the back, and a red pea coat. I wanted to dress the part because I know he has an appreciation for all things vintage. :-)

I passed the time by people-watching and listening to music. The anticipation was killing me - it seemed like forever. When the time came closer, I walked across the street to the Flamingo where he was staying. I wasn't used to wearing such high heels for a substantial period of time and my feet were already hurting. I didn't care, though. All I cared about was seeing him again. I waited for the remainder of my time at the food court. Once I got the text from him informing me what the room number was, I went upstairs to meet him.

I had to navigate a long, winding, labyrinthine-style maze of hallways until I finally got to his door, which was the very last one at the end. At least it was isolated enough that we would have privacy. ;-) When he answered the door, he gave me a hug and kiss. I joked that I would "punish" him by making me walk all that way. He had Sinatra playing on his iPod in the background and offered me a glass of red wine. I was breathless from my "pre-workout" and delightedly sat down to relax and have a drink with him.

He dressed in a charcoal gray suit with a black tie. He looked dashing, elegant, and sophisticated, even more handsome and sexy than when I first saw him. In typical Capricornian fashion, he wore a unique set of cuff links made out of vintage typewriter buttons. He said he had a romantic gift for me behind his back. He revealed a pink flamingo novelty pen that was absolutely adorable - I fell in love with it as soon as I saw it. I also had a card and a gift for him inside a red and white polka-dot gift bag. I saw it at Barnes & Noble and thought it was funny, knowing he would appreciate the joke. I gave him a book called Las Vegas: Then and Now, which has before-and-after pictures of how the city has changed within the past hundred years. Needless to say, he loved the book.

We sat down on the couch and sipped on our drinks, exchanging sexy banter and passionate kisses in between. He put his arm around me and I rested my head on his chest, contented and happy. It was so romantic that we almost didn't want to leave. However, we were both famished and we took a cab to the Peppermill, the "mystery restaurant" I surprised him with. On the way over, I couldn't find the clasp to buckle my seat belt. Let's just say Smith had a lot of fun trying to help me find it. ;-)

The Peppermill, for those of you who are unfamiliar, is one of the last true vintage Vegas restaurants that has not met the fate of the wrecking ball. It has been around since the early 70s. Many movies and TV shows were filmed there. We went inside the Fireside Lounge for some cocktails before dinner. The décor is bright pink and blue neon with comfy, plush sofas and a big, circular fireplace.

I had a Manhattan and Smith had a merlot. There were nuts on the table and we fed each other some. I spilled a little bit of my drink on my leg and he "cleaned" it up for me. ;-) We talked about my business and other things. He also cracked me up with his wicked sense of humor. Whenever we get together it seems like we never run out of things to talk about. He was always attentive to me, held my hand, and embraced me. He made me feel special, like a real woman.

After a while, we decided to go in to have dinner. As we exited the lounge, I got a little too tipsy and ended up talking to this lady that I thought was Smith until I turned around saw him walking a few paces behind her! Don't ask.

We were seated at a booth and I ordered a club sandwich with onion rings. Smith ordered a different sandwich with fries. Once I sobered up, we continued our flirtatious conversation with more kissing in between. Being with him is so comforting and warm. It's easy to forget that he's a companion - I feel like I've known him forever. For dessert we shared a dish of yummy crème brulee. We seductively fed each other bites of it, including a delicious strawberry. Even if we ended up at In-N-Out or some other fast food place, it still would have been sexy.

After we finished dinner, we walked outside and I showed him the last of the old school neon left on the Strip where the Riviera and Circus Circus were. An Asian lady stopped us and asked if we just got married! :-D

I started laughing hysterically.

She smiled and asked me, "What's so funny?"

I struggled to get the words out. "I don't know, it just seems like a funny idea to me, that's all."

I was tempted to tell her the truth. "No, ma'am, I just rented him for the evening," but I wisely held my tongue. I wonder what her reaction would have been! I can only imagine. ;-)

Smith laughed too and remarked, "I guess we look that good."

We crossed the street to Circus Circus and caught a cab back to the hotel. On the way over, I hiked up my dress a little. He caressed my leg and I got a thrill thinking that the cab driver may have been watching us. It was fun to give him a preview of coming attractions, which I know he very much enjoyed looking at. ;-P

I can tell you we had a most decadent evening, full of some intense and passionate moments. Again, Sinatra played in the background, which added to the romantic, seductive, and erotic mood. We had a lot of fun together. He broke one of my pearl earrings, but I forgive him for it. ;-) I also got to "model" my sexy nurse costume for him. He also pampered me with a soothing massage and we took that shower that we didn't get to have on our first date because I "punished" him.

Before I was about to leave for the evening, we held each other as we stood in front of the window. I saw our reflection in the glass and thought about how happy we looked. We gazed out at the adjacent hotels on the Strip. I said to him (actually, this is kind of a promise) that I would be rich, someday he would be my "kept man", and I would buy him whatever he wanted. He joked that he wanted that neon globe outside Harrah's. I quoted Jimmy Stewart from It's a Wonderful Life by saying, "I'll get a lasso and pull it down for you."

He walked me down to the elevators and kissed me goodbye. Although I would miss him and we only had six hours together, it was one of the best dates I ever had. I know we will get together in the future for many more fantastic engagements. Being with him is like a special treat I give to myself to escape the trappings of everyday life, knowing that our time together is heightened and different from ordinary existence, like a blissful dream you never want to wake up from.

As I was walking to the bus stop, I heard Sinatra music playing from the speakers at Bally's. It definitely made me smile. :-)

Sexy Video Sunday: The Music of Frank Sinatra

2009-11-08T09:36:00.000-08:00

Frank Sinatra is arguably one of the most important artists of the 20th century. The catalog of songs he sang during his lifetime is staggering. I became a fan shortly after I saw the original Ocean's 11 (1960). Living in Vegas, the legacy of the Rat Pack still lives on, especially in shows like The Rat Pack is Back, Matt Goss, and Zowie Bowie's Vintage Vegas. I decided to post some videos here, both of Ol' Blue Eyes performing, fan tributes, and the "Fly Me to the Moon" sequence from Down With Love. These videos are getting me in the mood for tonight's date. Enjoy! :-D

The Hannibal video amuses me in a way. I just saw Silence of the Lambs last night. I'm a secret Hannibal/Clarice shipper. For some odd reason, Dr. Lecter goes well with Sinatra. ;-)

Sexy Video Sunday: Alicia Silverstone - The Aerosmith Trilogy

2009-11-01T09:56:00.000-08:00

Back in the early 90s when I was in eighth grade and my freshman year of high school, respectively, Aerosmith came out with their blockbuster album Get a Grip. I believe the presence of the innocent sex kitten Alicia Silverstone had a lot to do with it. The director, Marty Callner, had seen Alicia in The Crush and cast her in all three music videos for "Amazing", "Cryin'" and "Crazy". The rest was history.

I wanted to be like her growing up. She knew how to work it! :-D

AEROSMITH - AMAZING
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Male escorts in popular culture: Example #2 - "The Wedding Date" you'll want to skip

2009-10-20T15:30:00.000-07:00

The Wedding Date (2005) is a forgettable, trite, paint-by-numbers romantic comedy that occasionally plays on cable from time to time. It stars Debra Messing (from Will and Grace) and Delmot Mulroney (My Best Friend's Wedding). Even though I think it is a lousy movie and I want to rip it to shreds, it still features the male lead character as a male escort, and by this saving grace alone, that is the film's only merit.

Kat (Messing) hires a male escort named Nick (Mulroney) for the weekend so she can attend her sister's wedding in London, and to get back at her ex-boyfriend, who will also be attending. I don't have to tell you very much. It's obvious Kat and Nick are going to fall in love, and that her ex is a lying, scum-sucking, douchebag loser who never learned his lesson by being a chronic womanizer. Not only that, we are led to believe Kat will just readily forgive her sister cheating with her ex! Please. If it was me, it would take me a hell of a long time to forgive her, if I chose to at all.

I felt like this movie totally insulted my intelligence. I'll bet it was made by a bunch of hacks who sat around thinking, "How can we milk the rom-com cash cow for all it's worth? Oh, let's do a story about a male escort and his female client who fall in love, but we want to make it accessible to the masses and sucker poor, unsuspecting women out of their hard-earned cash, so let's dumb down the story as much as possible - oh, and let's throw in some Michael Bublé songs to boot. That guy's popular now. Yeah, yeah - let's do it that way!" Seriously. Hollywood makes me ill sometimes. But it's partly the public's fault for letting Hollywood spoonfeed crap like this into their mouths.

The only scenes I thought were kind of decent and had some heat were the parts where Nick tells Kat how incredible she is when he leans against her by the car and when they make love on the boat for the first time. They do have some snappy banter the next morning, which I thought was kind of funny, about how he didn't charge her "extra" for something sexual she did to him, which is never mentioned. I actually liked the chemistry between Messing and Mulroney. I like them both as actors very much, but even good actors can be ruined by a bad story and script.

I wish they had given Nick more character development. Why did he become a male escort? Also, I felt they needed to push Nick and Kat's relationship to a deeper level. Why does Nick all of a sudden fall for Kat? Just because her ex is treating her like shit and he feels he would be a better man for her? What is it about Kat that would make him give up his profession and his freedom to be with her just like that? Why does she fall for him? More, more, more. I needed MORE, and the film makers didn't give it to me. It's the same old story we've seen re-hashed a hundred times. I just wanted a different take on the "reformed rake" story.

Don't get me wrong. I am a sucker for chick flicks/romantic comedies as much as the next girl, but this one wasn't very good IMO. I wouldn't waste your time on this drivel. You can watch it on Youtube for free if you want (I think someone uploaded it there), but you'd still be wasting your time.

At the very least, it brought male companionship to the forefront of mainstream America, even in its mediocre form.

(The right editing in a trailer can make a movie look better and more flawless than it is. Trust me, I'm an editor myself, so I know.) ;-)

Male escorts in popular culture: Example #1 - Zalman King's Red Shoe Diaries - "How I Met My Husband"

2009-10-13T19:15:00.000-07:00

This will be an ongoing series of blog posts as I explore the role of the male escort in popular culture.

Red Shoe Diaries was a soft porn series that aired on Showtime during the 90s. I discovered it when I was 17 during my senior year of high school. At the time, it was a big deal for me to watch something like this because it was the raciest stuff I had seen up to that point in my life. Some episodes were better than others, but this particular episode, "How I Met My Husband", is one of my favorites.

The pilot episode starred David Duchovny of The X-Files fame, who played a man named Jake. His fiancee, Alex, kills herself after becoming involved in a reckless affair with another man. Despondent and looking for answers as to why Alex would take her own life, Jake takes out an ad in the classifieds asking women to share their stories of love, loss, and betrayal, thus creating the "Red Shoe Diaries" that focuses on a different woman's experience through a letter he gets every week.

Here is the episode from Hulu for your enjoyment. I felt a little strange seeing it after so many years for some reason. It's still sexy, maybe not quite as titillating as it once was, but I still think the acting is fairly good and decent, as well as the story. The shy woman who becomes the dominatrix Mistress Eve and the male escort/exotic dancer Giuseppe have good chemistry. Ironically, I thought the brief sex scene with Giuseppe and the rich woman in her Rolls-Royce was sexier than the final scene at the end, which was a little contrived, but still kind of hot. Overall, a nice fantasy. :-)

P.S. I always loved the intro and the theme song! ;-)

Video: The Tyra Banks Show - "Would you hire a male escort?"

2009-10-12T21:31:00.000-07:00

I found this segment through CDM about male escorts (i.e. "prostitution") that was recently featured on The Tyra Banks Show. Occasionally I watch it if there happens to be something good on. Here is the clip:

I have mixed emotions about it. On one hand, I'm glad Tyra had featured a real "Hung"-type male companion on her show, to show mainstream America that women like me do pay for a real man to keep us company, to give us what we want, and that it's not only men who get to have fun, but we should have those rights as well. It doesn't make us "desperate" like some nasty comments I read on her website and on Youtube. We just value quality and that makes us discerning ladies with class and good taste who want nothing but the best. :-)

Overall, it was very interesting. I wish I could find the second part of the segment, to know what happened with his female client that he went out on a date with. I found his website. It's called Cowboys for Angels. Some of the men on there are kind of cute, I must say. ;-)

On the other hand, the scenario about the husband watching his wife have dinner with the companion while he sat in the corner was a little creepy. It made my skin crawl. Okay, I understand that couples do hire male escorts to - ahem - service their wives or girlfriends. Whatever floats your boat, I always say. I personally wouldn't want to share my husband with another woman if I was married, but I cannot be the judge of what someone else wants to do with his or her sex life. That is their business.

It thought it was kind of funny when Tyra asked the companion about remaking Pretty Woman as Pretty Man, meaning what if he fell in love with one of his clients and wanted to start a future with her. He has the right attitude, though. Companions and clients should not go out for free, and they definitely should NOT have "real" relationships. That's just not allowed. It complicates things too much.

Sorry, Tyra, girl. That, sadly, is only a fairytale.

Here's a quote from a calendar I have up on my wall: "Men are like credit cards. There's a limit to how much fun you can have with them."

Male escort banners and websites

2009-10-10T18:11:00.000-07:00

Here are the banners of all the independent male escorts I have verified personally on the web, along with directories and agencies. Happy hunting and I hope you find the right male companion for you! :-D

United States

Smith Curren - Seattle, WA

Clark Santenay - New York City, NY

Armand Chase - Los Angeles, CA

Gio Vanni - Tampa, FL
Alex S. Logan - New York, Boston, Toronto

James Craig - Las Vegas, NV

International

Cole Carter - UK

Rob - UK

Oscar - Italy

Aundre - Australia

John - Australia

Bailey - New Zealand

Lucifer - New Zealand

Tayne - New Zealand

Directories, Agencies, and Resources

The Straight Male Escort
Concierge du Monde

Concierge du Monde - Forum

Cowboys for Angels - Boston, Dallas, Las Vegas,
Los Angeles, New York, Florida

The Men's Company - The Netherlands

Eros Male Escorts - Top 100 - Worldwide

Pimp the Punter - Worldwide

Intimate moments with your companion

2009-10-10T16:19:00.000-07:00

After a fun and wonderful night out on the town with your special male companion, you've made the decision - you want to go to bed with him. This is very common. In fact, people will say that is the main reason why you hire a male escort in the first place.

A companion put it in this clever analogy. Say you hire a man to paint your house. You find he is cute, attractive, and sexy, and you end up sleeping with him. Think of a male escort in the same way. You hire him for his time and sex just happens to be a bonus. As long as you don't specifically mention any acts that may possibly compromise both of you, you'll be able to enjoy these special moments with him with no problems at all.

Whatever happens in private is a decision made between two consenting adults. My personal opinion is that sex is a union between two bodies and souls. As long as both of you know what you're getting into, there is no harm in it at all. No one should be the judge of what is right and wrong when it comes to your sex life. Sex is a beautiful, natural, and precious thing that should be experienced by two people who want to enjoy, satisfy, and please each other to the fullest extent. Seduction is all about pleasure and that's what you want it to feel like - a seduction.

How do you approach him about it? It depends on the situation and how you're both feeling at the time. You may have to ask him if you want to go back to the hotel, or your place, instead of the other way around for legal reasons, or he may have an in-call of his own to invite you to. In my case, I was asked, "At some point we should be going back to the hotel, don't you think?" Of course, I knew at some point during the night we were going to end up there eventually. If both of you are completely comfortable knowing where it's headed, then it should be an unspoken thing between the two of you.

I was extremely nervous right before it happened. I don't know why because I couldn't wait to go to bed with him and I knew he felt the same way about me. I guess it had been so long since I had made love to a man, especially since my first experience with a companion had been so awkward and disappointing. It turned out I had nothing to worry about because it was one of the best experiences of my life. It is perfectly normal for you to feel nervous with a new lover. I'm sure it happens to all of us. It's also the anticipation of what will happen that sparks that reaction.

If he is a true gentleman outside in public, then he should be an excellent lover behind closed doors. This is the real test of how good he is - how best he knows how to please you. He should be able to do whatever you want to make you feel like a real woman, to bring out your sensuality, to pleasure you like no one else has ever been able to. You want to feel like your most secret desires and fantasies have been brought to life before your very eyes. It will feel like a tantalizing, delicious, erotic dream. You should give in to these moments totally and enjoy being with such a wonderful and handsome man, who wants to take you to the heights of ecstasy and melts away your fears and inhibitions. He will pamper and spoil you, and take his time. It will totally be worth every penny for all the time you spent with him.

Like any great lover, he will listen to what you want. He will never make you do anything you don't feel comfortable with. In fact, the ideal situation (like mine) was not even having to say anything at all! The mark of a lover who is totally in tune with your sexuality is someone you naturally connect with in bed without having to explain what he should do. It was almost like he could read my mind - it was that good. He should also be responsible and practice safe sex at all times.

He will also give you a massage and that is something else that feels fantastic. Just picture yourself lying on the bed and having a man run his strong hands all over your body, making you feel relaxed and at ease. Afterward he will hold you and tell you how beautiful you are. Maybe he will invite you take a shower or a bath with him. This is also a great time to relax and have fun, talking flirtatiously in the tub while sipping some wine or champagne. It should feel like you've died and gone to Heaven, which is what the whole experience is all about, having a real man take care of you, knowing that he is happy that he has made you feel happy too.

Getting to know your companion

2009-10-09T12:16:00.001-07:00

So you've found the right companion after searching high and low on the internet, or however. In this blog, I will discuss getting to know your companion so that you feel comfortable with him.

Think of him as you would any potential would-be suitor. Break the ice by asking him questions such as how he got into escorting, what he likes or dislikes about it, his hobbies, interests, find out what makes him tick. He will ask you questions about what your likes and dislikes are as well. Also, what kind of plans do you have in mind for your time together? You could always talk about where you will take him for dinner, if you plan to see a show, and what hotel you will stay at.

If you feel comfortable enough discussing intimate topics, then the phone is a good place to do so instead of email, since there is more safety in verbalization rather than printed words, unless he's from a foreign country, where the laws are more open and relaxed than the United States. If he's certain you are not law enforcement, he will be more than happy to discuss such topics. Personally, I would not mention anything too explicit unless I felt there was mutual trust on both sides. Once the level of trust is established, don't be shy about letting him know what you want. If there's genuine chemistry between the two of you, that shouldn't be a problem. I will discuss the intimate part of companionship in a future blog.

If you're simply hiring him for an event, it's a good idea to go over what kind of story you will present to any people you and he may be interacting with if it's a wedding, high school reunion, business function, or any other social event. He has a lot of experience with the art of conversation and will be able to handle these events with ease like a consummate professional. Treat it almost like a fun role-playing "game". You are "acting" in real life and your friends, family, and co-workers will be none the wiser. What could be better than that? ;-)

Once you've been communicating for a while through email and phone calls, finally you meet him in person. For however long you hire him for, this man is all yours. ;-) After you've given him the donation and you finally start relaxing a little, everything should flow naturally between the two of you. Soon all the worries and burdens of your life will melt away, at least for one night, so you can feel special, admired, and adored. Once you finally know what his personality is like, it will be easy to find places to go and things to do that will be plenty of fun for both of you.

It doesn't necessarily have to end up in bed, but if it does, like I said before, that is a personal decision between both of you. If it feels right, do it. If it doesn't, then don't. As long as you feel safe and comfortable with him, you have nothing to worry about. He will take care of you. The power is in your hands. The ball is in your court. Now go out there and play! :-D

Companionship and The "L" Word - Part 2

2009-10-02T11:35:00.001-07:00

Here I am, blogging about this again. I decided to explore the other scenario - if I never saw my companion again.

I didn't want to go there, but I felt like I had to. Another member on CDM posted something today about how once she felt like she was starting to have feelings for her companion, and how she found something she didn't like about him so she wouldn't have those feelings. I already know what it is I don't like, so perhaps I shall use that. She talked about the "bonding" hormones that are released after sex and how she started to feel sad that her companion had to leave. I admit, I felt sad afterwards, but I was able to shrug it off at the time. (Damn you, men! How come it's never an issue for you? Why do we women have to have this problem? LOL)

Or, the other difficult scenario, saying goodbye forever. If one day it becomes too hard to bear, and I do say goodbye, then it will also be goodbye to all of this: my blog, Twitter, and having anything to do with the subculture/alternative lifestyle. It would be cut permanently out of my life. I would have to make a clean break.

As I mentioned before, I feel like I lead a double-life that is exciting and thrilling, yet confusing and strange at the same time. As much as I like tweeting about sex with total strangers on my Companionista account, honestly, I will admit, I do sit down sometimes and think, "How can these people live like this?"

I have a high sex drive and I'm not a saint. I've done some things that aren't the most ethical, but I'm not promiscuous by any means. They, however, revel in their hedonism and aren't ashamed of it. More power to you as long as you're responsible and not hurting anybody, but I don't approve of it, personally. That's not who I am and I stand by own moral code. Lately, I have been questioning whether my moral code is the right one.

I could go out there and screw everything that moves, but I choose not to. I had a one-night stand with a stranger. Did I feel good about it? NO! So I don't understand why people have to get paid for it. I mean, we all have to earn our daily bread. I am trying not to judge you all. I know you gotta do what you gotta do, especially in these rough economic times. Maybe I am really a "closet conservative" like one follower said on Twitter. He also said I should "embrace" my alternative lifestyle. I don't know if I can give in completely to the "dark side". o.O

Does this make me a boring person? Am I a prude? Am I brainwashed by society? Have I been indoctrinated into society's norms? Are my values and morals just standing in my way? Should I just fuck anyone that's out there? Is marriage, monogamy, and faithfulness old-fashioned and outdated? Have I been wrong to want these things all these years? I know human beings are not naturally monogamous and maybe society is wrong? Now I am asking myself these questions and I have no answers. I don't want to feel like a hypocrite, but maybe I am.

Which brings me back to the hard choice: not seeing my companion again. Well, as I stated before, perhaps the scenario can be avoided by dating other men and facing the truth that a companion is not a boyfriend, and doing everything in my power to ignore the fact that he will see other people. Emotions have no place in an arragement like this - only fun and excitement without messy complications. That's how it should be.

I have my fantasies just like anyone else. Fantasies are harmless, safe, and can be controlled. Real life cannot. Nine times out of ten when I have acted my fantasies out I have been bitterly disappointed. Very rarely is real life better than a fantasy. One such occasion happened with my companion. If I experienced something that amazing once, it is only natural I would want to experience it again and again (or at least until I go broke LOL).

We can't always get everything we want in this life. That is the sad truth, my friends. I failed to get this other man to fall in love with me before I met my companion, and it devastated me. I am slowly getting over it. I realize it will never happen, and that's okay. I may have failed with someone else, but there has to be someone out there for me somewhere.

Till then, ignorance is bliss.

Companionship and The "L" Word (and no, I'm not talking about the TV show)

2009-09-30T15:49:00.000-07:00

Taking a little break from blogging about douchebags LOL. :-)

For a while I've been avoided blogging about this. One of the members of Concierge du Monde started a thread about the emotional part of companionship. He asked a very interesting question: "Would you keep seeing your companion, growing more attached, or would you stop seeing him altogether to avoid feelings of deeper attachment?" This is one of the unspoken things that both parties don't talk about. Maybe because it may not be an issue. If this isn't an issue for you, you're lucky. If you do happen to find yourself having romantic feelings for your companion, this is what I suggest you do to keep them at bay.

Keep busy with your own life and interests. Although you may feel a connection to your companion and consider him your friend, realize that you are not a couple in a real relationship. Aside from some flirtatious banter between emails, phone calls, and engagements, this is the extent of any ties with him. When your mind is preoccupied with other things, it doesn't give you mental space to dwell on missing him and checking on him to see what he's up to.

Date other men that are not companions. Keep your options open. Realize this man will never be your boyfriend or husband and you will NEVER have a relationship with him, other than being very expensive friends with benefits. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you are after a committed, long-term relationship or even marriage in the future, hold out for a man who can give you these things that don't come with a price tag.

Pleasure is best when you know it's fleeting. Think of this man as "fun" and "temporary" and you will be okay. Know that you have to share him with other women because this is what he does to earn his livelihood. He is a pro who is good at what he does and you don't want to feel like you're trying to stop him from doing what he wants. You may feel jealous of this fact, but all you can do is try to ignore it.

Focus on the precious time you will spend with him and forget about everyone else (unless you're not the jealous type, then good for you). Know that a companion is not the type of man to settle down, at least not with you, and don't entertain fantasies about it AT ALL. If you do, ask yourself why you're thinking these things. If this is what you really want, don't hire a companion and try to find a regular guy through a professional dating service or some other means.

It's hard if you feel a genuine connection, attraction, and chemistry with your companion when you meet him, and you like each other, but once you can get past all this, you've got it made. Obviously, if you're already in a relationship, this is a no-brainer for you, or again, like I said, maybe it's not even an issue. We are only human and not machines without feelings. There are some things that may be beyond your control, no matter how hard you try to hide it or suppress it. You must suppress it, though, if only for your own sanity and peace of mind.

If more regular men were like companions, if there weren't so many douchebags like the ones I've written about, then there would be no need to hire real gentlemen to entertain us. For me, I would keep seeing my companion because it's a lot of fun, plus it's nice to find someone who I can see that represents the ideal qualities I would be looking for in a potential boyfriend once I finally settled down with one. It's a safe way to explore fantasies without fear of judgment, being able to go to places and do things that regular men may balk at, and being in control of your needs and desires with no strings, which is exactly the reason male companions are available. It's a matter of convenience. I know that sounds cold, but when I need him, he's there, and when I don't, then he's not.

Remember, you are always in control and you decide what the extent of your friendship will be with this man for as long as you wish.

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The financial aspect of hiring a companion

2009-09-22T19:55:00.001-07:00

Today I would like to focus on the big issue when it comes to hiring a companion: MONEY.

Hiring a male escort isn't cheap. If it was, everyone would be doing it and it would quickly lose its allure. Being able to afford a man of good breeding, manners, style, taste, sophistication, and eloquence is a luxury, especially in these hard economic times when more people are holding onto their money rather than spending it. Only ladies of means (or those who are lucky enough to save up enough money, like me) can hire a companion. When you find the right man who will treat you to a wonderful evening where you get to feel completely desired like the beautiful woman you are, then it is worth every penny. Like the old saying goes, "You get what you pay for."

Nearly all the male escorts I've talked to said they got into their profession because they were tired of a 9 to 5 existence and wanted to experience something exciting and different. Some of them are doing this to pay for school and will go on to do something else in the future, some of them do it part-time in addition to a regular day job, and others are doing this as their full-time career. Some work independently or for an agency. For whatever reason they choose to do it, the one thing I know for certain is that they love doing it and they want to be able to do whatever it takes to please you and make you happy. They know they cannot exist without you, the client, who is number one.

Many of them will either offer an in-call where you will meet them at a location of their choice, or if you're not comfortable, you can always have them meet you in a public place, and if you feel comfortable enough, at a hotel or your own home (out-call). The rates for male companions are called "donations". Most will have a bare minimum rate of an hour to two hours. This is about $300-400, depending on the companion. One of them offered me an introductory cocktail package of $300 for a minimum of three hours. If you want more time with them, dinner will usually run you about $1,000-$1,500, but then again, it varies. For longer engagements that last 12-14 hours or 24 hours, then it usually runs about $2,000-$3,000+. If you want to hire a companion for a longer engagement, they are willing to negotiate a fair price with you.

All of them are willing to travel to meet you anywhere in the world. Some even include the price of the flight, dinner, and hotel in their package along with their donation. Others will want you to pay for their travel expenses, unless you hire them for longer than 24 hours, then they will pay for their own airfare. You are responsible for all your own expenses accrued during your time with him (hotel, dinner, cab fare, etc.).

The donation is always paid in cash and it must always be discreetly given to him in an plain white envelope, like a gift card, a gift bag, book, or magazine. It is expected you give it to him within the first 20 minutes of meeting each other. Some companions will want you to lay it on a table. Others you can hand it to directly. Again, it depends on the companion's discretion. Some may count it out in front of you, some may not. My advice is that you never mention one word about the money when you give it to him. Trust in good faith that he has it all under control. He is a pro and the last thing you need to do is worry about money. Once you get the money issue out of the way, then you're good to go. :-)

A deposit through Paypal or some other form of electronic payment is required for out-of-town engagements, so that there's a guarantee, or insurance policy, if you will, that he knows you won't flake out on him for any reason. If it so happens you must cancel or rearrange your plans, please give him plenty of advance notice, otherwise he will have to charge you at least half of what you agreed to pay him to make up for being inconvenienced, and you don't want to have to deal with that.

Earlier I mentioned that it can be difficult for a woman to make this decision because it's not as mainstream as men hiring female escorts. How do you know the man on the other side of the computer screen isn't a con artist trying to swindle you out of your hard-earned money? Rest assured, all the men on this blog have been verified, and if he is serious about his livelihood, he will give you plenty of references to check out and reviews to put you at ease. Beware if he doesn't easily offer you this information, or if he charges exorbitant amounts of money. If he tries to pressure you into hiring him right away, watch out. A true pro will never try to force you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Always trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, DON'T DO IT.

The bottom line is, you are paying for a true gentleman's company. If only regular men could treat you like this for free, then we wouldn't have male escorts, unfortunately. But I have to admit, a lot of men out there are clueless on how to treat women with respect, so luckily we do have gentlemen who will give you the "BFE" or "Boyfriend Experience" for however long you want to spend time with them. It's about quality, not quantity, I always say, and for such a unique, sensual, and pleasurable experience, you should be absolutely sure you are getting exactly what you want when you want it.

However, I advise you should not break the bank. It can be addicting to keep hiring someone that you had the time of your life with. If your financial situation isn't completely stable at the moment, it is good to wait until you're 100% ready to do something like this. It shouldn't drive you into the poor house. Once you are ready, though, get ready for an experience that will make your wildest dreams come true.

EDIT: For more information in greater detail about etiquette and donations when it comes to hiring a male companion, please check out this thread from Concierge du Monde.

How to find the right male companion for you

2009-09-17T11:20:00.000-07:00

Since I've been hiring male escorts, I've noticed more and more gentlemen are coming out of the woodwork to promote themselves for hire on the internet. This is definitely a good thing because now there are more yummy hot guys to choose from! Believe me, I wish there had been this many when I was looking last spring - it would have made it a hell of a lot easier, or more difficult, if you think about it, because it would've taken more time to get to know some of them before I made my decision.

All of the gentlemen are unique in their own way and market themselves as such. Some are more traditional and sophisticated, some of them are more relaxed and casual. The most gorgeous one with the best website doesn't necessarily mean he's going to be the right one for you. The one who's the most smooth-talking and refined may not be the right one either. The one who has the best deal as far as his donation doesn't mean he's worth the investment. In fact, I may hire someone who's more expensive, but is giving me a better quality experience in the long run. It's like a seeing a full-price item that is of good quality as opposed to one that's on sale that may not be of the same quality. You may decide the full price item gives you greater value.

So how can you tell if you're going to get a dud or a stud? The number one question a client will ask, regardless of what business it is or what product or service is offered will be, "What's in it for me?" How will they know how to make you as an individual feel special and unique, instead of feeling like a notch in one long expensive belt?

Sure, they can all tell you the same thing, that they're the perfect male companion to spend an evening with, that they will make you feel pampered, relaxed, and happy. Some of their websites will be more impressive than others. Pay close attention to how the website is set up. Are they lighthearted in their approach, or more mysterious? Color has a lot to do with it. Look at the color scheme of the website (color is more psychological than we think it is). Do the colors feel warm and pleasant, or are they cold and impersonal? Does the language they use convey a fun, relaxed, playful mood, or is it designed to be more urbane, refined, and stylish?

The only way to really tell is to email and talk to the ones that strike a chord with you. Shop around. Don't agree to hire the first one that answers you back right away. The more you peel back the layers, the more you may discover this man is not your cup of tea. If you go ahead and decide to do it anyway, you may have a negative experience like I had with Companion X, and at the end of it, you'll regret what you did and feel like you wasted your hard-earned money. Personality is the biggest asset the guys have to sell themselves. I don't care what anybody says. Looks are not always the best indicator, neither is the coolest-looking website. If your potential client isn't comfortable with your approach, you can kiss her goodbye.

The biggest mistake a gentleman can make - actually, the two biggest mistakes are automatically assuming she's sold on you right from the first email and she's ready to hire you (remember, she may be looking at your competitors online who may be a better fit for her), and assuming what her financial position is (I'll go into the financial part of it in greater detail in a future blog). It's Sales 101. If I pushed products and talked them up right when the customer came into my store, it would make them run out so fast your damn head would spin. Also, you never know what kind of money she has to spend, so never, ever judge unless she explicitly tells you, "You know what, you're rates are a little bit higher than what I wanted to pay, sorry."

The way I learned to sell to people is indirectly. Lower their defenses, make the customer see you as a human being instead of a salesperson, and you'll have him or her eating out of the palm of your hand. So we learned to open the sale with non-business opening lines. Talk about everything but the product. People love to talk about themselves. It's human nature. We are all inherently narcissistic, even the most modest person. So if you can get your lady to see you as a normal, regular guy underneath the suave gigolo persona, you've got it made. (At least that's how I would want it to be).

A lady and her companion should ideally get to know one another first through their correspondence so it can be a better indicator of how their date will be when they meet in person. Think about how you feel when you talk to him. Are you relaxed and comfortable, or do your instincts tell you that something's not right? Does he suggest things that you aren't comfortable with? Does he allow you to take charge and suggest your own ideas of what you want to do when you spend time with him? If you don't feel entirely comfortable, then don't do it. Keep looking for someone else, talk to more than one if necessary, and then when you're comfortable enough with the "right one", enjoy your time with him! :-)

Men have it far easier than women when it comes to hiring escorts. For centuries men have had the luxury of concubines, mistresses, courtesans, etc. as I mentioned in a previous post. Women didn't have those luxuries until recently. Men can talk about it with other men, but ladies, is this something you can easily discuss, even with your closest girlfriends? Even I can't discuss it with my best girlfriend I've known for years who's like my sister. Men hire female escorts basically for one purpose. I'm pretty sure you know what it is. I'm not sure if men necessarily want to get to know their female companions. Some of them may, but some of them just want to get right down to business.

But we women want the total quality experience. This is exactly what you pay for when you hire a gentleman. He has to give you something your regular, inept, garden-variety husband, boyfriend, or would-be suitor cannot. He will be charming, romantic, attentive to details, take his time, and fulfill your fantasy. It's all about having fun and being treated like a queen. So if you are going to make this important decision, you want to make sure you're going to find the man who's right for you. It's like a new form of dating that isn't traditional, so it can be a difficult decision for you to make. Trust me, when you find the right companion, you'll feel like you've died and gone to heaven. I wouldn't be saying this if it wasn't the honest to God truth.

Good luck and I hope you find the right companion out there for you! :-D

Oh, Lords!

2009-09-16T23:01:00.000-07:00

"If you're sexy, everybody will love you. That's what I wanted."

Today I would like to devote a special blog post to Miss Traci Elizabeth Lords, a.k.a. Nora Louise Kuzma, the greatest porn actress of all time (IMO).

For those of you who know the story, Traci rose to fame in porn when she was only fifteen from 1984-1986 when she was caught red-handed by the Feds shortly after her eighteenth birthday. Her last and only legal film, Traci I Love You, made tons of money after the scandal. The porn industry lost millions and experienced legal troubles for years. All her illegal films were subsequently pulled off the shelves of video stores all over the country. Some people claim Traci herself blew the whistle so she could take the money and run. Others say it was her mother or people in the business who found out about her age and wanted to sabotage her. To this day, no one really knows for sure.

She used someone else's birth certificate to obtain a phony ID and passport in order to work in porn. Sometimes it astonishes me that the porn industry was that stupid not to suspect her from the beginning. Even in some of her earlier films, despite the makeup (yes, I have seen quite a few of her underage films and she was damn hot in them), at times it's obvious she was underage. There's a phone interview that she did for a reporter back in 1985 that I was able to download from the AVN website a while back. She sounds so young, it's not even funny. You can listen to three parts of the interview here (for some reason I can't extract part 1 from my Zune - I'll try to extract it later somehow):

Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

After it was discovered she was underage, it pretty much finished her porn career. Traci was down, but not out. She broke into mainstream films, with her first breakout roles in the B-movie remake of Roger Corman's Not of this Earth and John Waters' Cry-Baby opposite Johnny Depp. She even took acting lessons at the famed Strasberg Studio. Over the years she has starred in or appeared in various B films and TV shows including Profiler, First Wave, Married With Children, Melrose Place, Roseanne, Wiseguys, and Gilmore Girls.

I first became aware of Traci when her album (yes, her album - Traci sings!) 1,000 Fires came out in 1995. When I found out she used to be a porn star, it didn't not turn me off in the slightest. In fact, I became curious about her and downloaded some of her old porn stuff from various P2P websites (they are readily available on the internet). In one of them she takes on three guys at once - at sixteen! When I was sixteen I hadn't even kissed a boy, and this girl had these guys on their knees begging to service her. It was AMAZING to watch. Even though she was this sex monster, there was something wholesome about her, which is why she was so popular. Her age had a lot to do with it.

The girl could have a screaming orgasm like no one else, plus she had a dynamite body, and she knew how to act even then! The camera loved her - she was a natural-born star. One of the oft-told tales was on the set of Alex de Renzy's Wild Things. The director yelled cut, and she was still going, screaming at Jamie Gillis, "Come on, mama wants it hotter!" And Jamie Gillis was no lightweight - he was as nasty as they got as far as male porn stars in those days, but even he was no match for Traci. (I've watched that sex scene between Lords and Gillis - just listening to his voiceover describing what he fantasized about doing to her underage character made me want to take a shower - it was so sleazy and filthy - 70s and 80s porn was dirty, dirty, dirty!). She is not a passive sex symbol by any means. She forged her own path and is still going strong today.

Traci at the beginning at her career, and the end. Look how hardened she became in only two years!

I know people want to bash her for all kinds of things, that porn made her, she's a liar, she denounced the industry, she has no talent, blah, blah, blah. I'll have to admit, these are exactly the things I admire about her. She was a teenage Machiavellian. Sure, what she did was wrong, but when we're young, we all make mistakes. Plus, I kind of admire the fact that she gave the industry a wake-up call and almost brought them down. It was just as much their responsibility as it was hers to prove she was of age to make those films in the first place. Now the 2257 laws are enforced on every piece of adult material distributed in the US to make sure no more Tracis slip through the porn industry's fingers.

Now Traci is happily married with a young son. She made her most recent film appearance in Zack and Miri Make a Porno, where she has a small role as a randy cougar porn star named Bubbles, known for a special talent. It's good to know Traci has a sense of humor about her past. Viva La Lords! :-D

Pretty, witty Nell Gwyn - The King's Favorite

2009-09-14T13:09:00.000-07:00

Let's have a history lesson today, boys and girls, shall we? ;-)

I'd like to focus on one my favorite historical figures. Above is a portrait of Eleanor "Nell" Gwyn, one of the first females to act on the English stage and the favorite of King Charles II. Despite being a commoner who grew up in one of the poorest parts of London working in a bawdy house (brothel) when she was very young, she rose to the status of actress, even though it was not considered a dignified profession for women in those days. She never learned to read or write, with the exception of signing an awkward "E.G." for important documents. She learned all her lines merely by listening to them. She became famous with the English people because of her humor, wit, and charm, excelling at comedic roles. It is assumed she was a prostitute in addition to selling oranges in the theater before she became famous and slept with various theater men to get ahead in her career.

Judging by what I've read about her, she was a straight shooter - what you saw was what you got with Mrs. Gwyn. She never put on any airs or pretended to be something she was not. One time a footman of hers got into a fight with someone who called Nell a whore. She broke up the fight by saying, "I am a whore. Find something else to fight about." Another famous story was her coach was passing by a group of hecklers who thought she was one of her rivals. She peeked her head out of the window and said, "Pray, be civil, good people. I am the Protestant whore!" As soon as they saw Nell, they cheered and let her go in peace. :-)

Charles was known to keep a stable of royal mistresses around since his Queen Consort, Catherine de Braganza, frequently miscarried, and since he was the King, he could not help but partake of the pleasures of many beautiful women. He was described as tall, handsome, and a romantic figure during a colorful era. With his return to the throne after overthrowing the Puritanical reign of Cromwell, the Restoration period came to be known, and such things as music, singing, dancing, and theater were brought back to life.

Nell was a player in the King's Company and Charles noticed her right away. The same qualities that enchanted the English people also drew Charles to her. She became one of the King's mistresses and bore him two sons. What set her apart from all the others, including her main rival, Louise de Kerouaille, the Duchess of Portsmouth, a well-born noblewoman from the French aristocracy (also Catholic, which is why Nell referred to herself as the "Protestant whore"), was how unaffected and natural she was. Everytime he was with her, she made sure he was entertained with her lively, spirited humor and plenty of good food and drink. They spent a lot of time out in the country, where she taught him to fish and play cards. All the other women made so many demands, but whenever they got on his nerves, he turned back to Nell. The other women had his body, but she had captured his heart and soul.

Louise had a habit of being melancholy and was prone to crying jags. Nell would call the Duchess "Weeping Willow" and "Squintabella" to her face. She would mock the pretentious Duchess by showing up at court wearing a black mourning gown, exaggeratedly crying, saying she was in mourning for fake relatives such as the "Boog of Oronooko" or the "Cham of Tartary". It was antics like this that kept Charles intrigued, amused, and delightfully surprised. He never knew what Nell had up her sleeve, which was the reason she was able to keep his attention longer than the others. She was ambitious and learned how to navigate the shark-infested waters of Whitehall.

Nell died in 1687, two years after Charles passed away. She suffered a couple of strokes, which left her bedridden and paralyzed. Charles had left a provision in his will ("Let not poor Nelly starve") and all her debts were paid off before she died. At her funeral, the Archbishop of Canterbury was quoted as saying, "Just so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance."

Nell's story fascinates me because she lived such an amazing life in a short period of time (she only lived to be 37). It's the classic rags-to-riches story. A poor girl from the slums of London rising to fame and prominence on the stage, who finally conquered the king's heart. She never stopped believing in her dreams. True, she made mistakes, she could be crass, and did unsavory things to get ahead in life, but she had enormous influence and power for a woman in that time period. She didn't care what people thought of her and lived her life the way she wanted. She was one of a kind and that is why she is still remembered to this day.

Sexy Smith from Seattle

2009-09-13T01:05:00.001-07:00

Today I would like to write about my special male companion, Smith Curren. :-)

As you read in an earlier post, I was very disappointed in the first choice I made. Despite my disappointment, I was still thinking of giving Companion X a second chance. Ironically, I found Smith through Companion X's website. I decided to click on his banner out of curiosity. I am so glad I did.

Smith's website is not as polished or fancy as X's (he designed it himself), but it speaks volumes about how down-to-earth and natural he is as a person. I liked his sense of humor and warmth, which came through in his bio. I got a good idea of what he looked like through the pictures on his site even though you don't see his entire face, but you can still see his captivating smile. I read on his blog, The Past and Pending, that he was a fan of Frank Sinatra and the Rat Pack, which I am as well. I also liked that he was into eclectic things like this indie movie he wrote about. Judging from that, I felt like he had class and good taste. I decided I would take a chance and contact him.

We exchanged a couple of emails before he gave me his number. We hit it off right away. He has this loud, hearty laugh that I really like, which is a lot like mine. He is easily amused and loves a good risque joke. He is also easy to flirt with and have a conversation with. Within the first five minutes of speaking to him, I felt like I had known him for years and that he was an old friend of mine. He has a deep, sexy voice and I liked that he thought my voice was sexy as well. (Plus, he is a Capricorn! Straight-laced, cool, nonchalant, and understated on the outside; hot, passionate, wild and uninhibited on the inside.) ;-)

I had no hesitations or doubts about him at all. He gave me a couple of references to check out, but I didn't feel it was necessary to contact them because I trusted him 100% and I respected his integrity. I never got any weird vibes about him at all. It was easy to plan what I was going to do with him once I hired him to visit me in Vegas. (Get your mind out of the gutter! LOL) ;-)

We both share a love of vintage Vegas, and I was pleasantly surprised that we had quite a few things in common. He sent me a couple of reviews from past clients and that also impressed me. What really sealed the deal for me were those gorgeous pictures! It made my imagination run wild - I started to think of myself being in those scenes and I was hooked. ;-)

Of course, naturally I was nervous when I checked into the hotel the day of our date. He sent a bunch of sweet text messages letting me know he had arrived and couldn't wait to meet me. He surprised me by saying he had checked into another room at the same hotel (companions will often have a separate hotel room as kind of a closet, if you will, to leave their stuff before meeting a client). I wanted to make sure I looked my best for him so I could make a great first impression.

My first impression of him was that he was charming, relaxed, and sweet. He is not conventionally handsome, but he has a distinctive look that would make you notice him instantly, whether he was dressed up in a suit and tie or casual clothes. He has brown spiky hair, brown eyes, and freckles. He wore the suit that you see in one of his pictures in the gallery section of his website (the picture where he's wearing the hat) because I had asked him to. His whole demeanor suggests that you are in for the time or your life, or as he often says, to cause trouble or mischief. ;-)

He looks older than 29, but that's a typical Cap trait - they look wiser beyond their years because they often are, but he has a youthful spirit and energy that is infectious. That's definitely a plus in his favor. He also has a very nice, athletic body and has this cute little strut when he walks. He never stopped holding my hand or ceased being affectionate and romantic with me, which is something that made me feel very happy.

What I also like about him is that he's an open book and I appreciate his honesty and sincerity. He mainly wanted to know about me, which I wasn't really prepared for since the man I knew before (the one I wrote the poems for in my earlier post) was Smith's total opposite and antithesis. If you can imagine a man who is proud, vain, arrogant, egotistical, spoiled, self-centered, flashy, showy, and basically a total jerkoff who thinks it's all about "me, me, me", then you know this is definitely NOT who Smith is. (Ladies, I think we've all met and fallen for smarmy assholes like that at some point in our lives.) He wasn't intimidated or afraid of me and I felt safe and comfortable being in his company. He was such a breath of fresh air. It was nice to be with someone humble for a change who was genuinely interested in getting to know me and couldn't wait to be alone with me.

I surprised him with dinner at the Sinatra restaurant at Encore, knowing he would appreciate it because he's a fan, and he was thrilled. We walked around the Strip and I was happy to show him all the points of interest. My only regret is that I wish I had more time to spend with him. I don't think the time we had was enough because we enjoyed ourselves too damn much. I plan to hire him for many more dates in the future. If you read my review on CDM, I'll say it again. You'd be wasting your time if you hire someone else. If both my blog and review impressed you enough, then you should click on Smith's banner above and contact him. Except if he's in Vegas, he'll be all tied up LOL. Sorry, ladies! ;-)

I'm glad that he is my friend and I am extremely proud to know him. He is a true gentleman. :-)

Concierge du Monde - Website and Forum for Ladies and Male Companions

2009-09-12T01:44:00.001-07:00

Today I would like to post a blog about a website and forum I go to on a regular basis, Concierge du Monde. If you click on the banners above, you will be directed to the sites. I was invited to become a member by Smith last month shortly after our date. It is run by the lovely Holly Brooks, a female companion based here in Las Vegas. Although I have not always seen eye-to-eye with some of the members there and I thought at one point I wanted to leave, I'm glad I didn't. I look forward to posting any advice there I feel would help other ladies in selecting a male companion in addition to my blog here.

I would not have this blog if it wasn't for my debate on CDM. I think it has to do with the perpetual rebellious teenager in me. Because a lot of them do not believe in monogamy or marriage and feel that relationships and marriages should be open, my natural response was to disagree and rebel against them. Ironically, if I were part of a forum that had conservative, right-wing, religious members (I consider myself moderately liberal), then I would rebel against their beliefs and values too LOL. I always try to march to the beat of my own drum. :-)

So I decided to create this blog to be a voice on the internet for women who may be in the same situation as I once was. The gentlemen all market themselves in different ways, but I feel some women out there would be more comfortable getting advice and help from another woman. I never thought I would be the female representative for male companionship, but I have taken it upon myself to be the first (that I know of) to write about my experiences. I hope I can be a source of inspiration for you, as I am still learning and growing myself. I'm still learning how to navigate this world. It hasn't always been easy, but at least it's not boring. ;-)

I equate the forum to being like the courts of England or France in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries. All of us are like modern-day courtiers, libertines, and courtesans, sometimes all three of them mixed into one! I would say I'm the most "virginal" of the CDM "courtiers" LOL. As far as what goes on with the CDM members in real life, that is something only the ladies and companions are privy to. ;-)

If you are curious, you can register for free as a member and browse the profiles of the male companions on the site (all of their banners are posted here on my blog). Your dream date awaits! :-D

The benefits of hiring a male escort

2009-09-09T00:47:00.000-07:00

Today I would like to focus more on the benefits of hiring a straight male escort. I touched on this briefly in previous posts, but I would like to discuss this in further detail.

Women are obviously more attuned to details than men are. This is not to sound sexist, but we ladies have a "sixth sense" that men don't have. Luckily, these men do know what women want and are committed to making you feel special. A companion has much experience in studying women, knowing what they like and dislike, what to say or not say, in order to make you feel comfortable and relaxed. Not every companion works for every woman, but when you find the "right one", I say, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." You will surely have a genuine friend and confidante that you can hire for many, many dates, for as long as you wish.

Perhaps you're single and you haven't had the greatest luck finding a quality man to take you out. Maybe they all seem like douchebags who want a piece of ass and are not interested in getting to know you first, and are not treating you with the respect you deserve. Or maybe you are in a committed relationship or marriage and your boyfriend or husband isn't appreciating you the way he should be. Maybe you just want to experience something different and adventurous that you've never done before.

You want to have the thrill of hiding a naughty secret that no one except you and your companion know about. You're a heterosexual or lesbian couple and want to add a third (many companions see both). You're shy and you need a gentleman to bring out you out of your shell and make you feel like the confident, sexy siren that you are. Maybe you're a busy with your career and don't have time to look for something serious. Or it's as simple as wanting to hire him for an important event. Congratulations - you are the perfect candidate for hiring a male escort!

Picture it. A handsome, charming man on your arm who will be at your beck and call. He will take you to the places you've always dreamed of. He will respect you and be genuinely interested in what you have to say. You call the shots. You are in control. He's not some random schmuck in a bar or club who may use you, only to never call you again. This way you know what you're getting and he'll be exactly what you want. If you want him to be romantic, sexy, flirtatious, adventurous, scandalous, roguish, charming, funny, sensitive, strong, dominant, submissive, whatever your fantasy is, he's ready to provide it for you.

Why should men have all the fun? For centuries, men have always held the power to have mistresses, courtesans, concubines, and prostitutes while women had to be the nurturing, stabilizing force in society. Now it's the 21st century and women have all the rights that men have always had. Why not hire a male courtesan to do what female courtesans have done for men all this time - to make you feel sensual and desired.

Now, I know in this economy times are tough and with the exception of the very wealthy, it can be difficult to save enough money to afford an experience like this. I'm not rich by any means myself (although I pretend to be LOL). I go to school and I have debts just like everyone else. I can get money, but only sporadically until my business takes off and I finally have a more stable income. It was tricky to finagle enough money for my last date, but it was worth every penny.

I'm planning my next encounter, and the one after that as well. If you're serious about doing this, somehow you will find the means to hire one of these fine gentlemen. Heaven knows I did and I was beyond ecstatic. The memories I had will last me a lifetime. I feel so happy and excited every time I think about it. If I have to save every dime, I'm determined to do this again and again. That speaks volumes about how amazing it was for me. :-D

If I haven't made my case to make you click above on one of those banners, then I don't know what else to say. I'm living proof of the fun you will have if you decide to partake of this delicious adventure yourself. So, go ahead, ladies, what are you waiting for? ;-)

Leading a double life

2009-09-03T00:08:00.001-07:00

I would like to focus on my conflicting emotions that comes from hiring companions. Since I've become fascinated with this new world and subculture, I feel like I now live a double life.

My family and friends know nothing of my hiring male escorts. I know I could NEVER tell my mom, even though we're best friends (sometimes we're our worst enemies too), and my best female friend. In fact, I had to open a separate Twitter account for a brief period of time (it has now since been closed) since I was following a couple of my male escort friends on my business/semi-personal account and she also follows me there. I didn't want her and the people I do business with to start asking me questions, even though I have 1,400+ followers so far.

There is a side of me that is torn about what I have done. I don't regret it, but I still have that "traditional" side of me that longs for a long-term relationship with one man, maybe even marriage, or a family, although I've resisted having children (I may skimp on various other areas of my life, but the one thing I am "religious" about is birth control). I don't know if I'll ever have kids. If I do, it would have to be with someone really special that I could see myself growing old with.

My parents are divorced. Hell, most of the people I know come from broken homes. Ironically, my views of marriage have changed since I've been single. I've never felt so strongly about monogamy, commitment, and marriage than ever before. I'm all for it. I know a couple I've been working with here in Vegas on some business projects and they are two of the sweetest people that I know. I see how happy, positive, and in love they are after being together for six years. I really hope they make it and nothing bad ever happens to their marriage. I hope I can celebrate their diamond wedding anniversary with them. My first ex and I talked about marriage, but we never took steps to make it a reality.

I've always been in long-term relationships. I have trouble with one-night stands. I wish I could be hard emotionally and not feel anything, but it's tough. I met a guy through CL from Florida who posted an ad in the "Casual Encounters" section. I've always had a fantasy about hooking up with a stranger and going up with him to his hotel room. I thought I could handle it. "No big deal, I'll have my fun, and leave. People do it all the time. After all, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, right?" Wrong. I should have known what I was getting into, but I thought I would come out of it emotionally unscathed.

I should have gotten the heads up that he called himself by a pseudonym instead of his real name in his email (which I found out later when I met him in person), and that he had a quote from Cool Hand Luke on his voicemail instead of his own voice (seriously). We met at New York New York where he was staying (I have a real aversion to that place now) and we had lunch at the Chinese restaurant there. He seemed intelligent, well-spoken, interested in what I had to say, and was a good listener (all the hallmarks of a true player - the less you mention about sex, the better - right, fellas?). He told me he was divorced. Who knows if he was telling the truth?

Afterwards we went to the bar and had a drink. Ironically, I was the one who mentioned sex first, but I suspect this was his M.O. all along, to use reverse psychology to get me to go to bed with him. When we kissed, it was just okay. I never kissed someone who smoked before, but it wasn't too bad. The only thing that bothered me was that I tried to embrace him and he didn't embrace me back. I should have stopped right then and there. I'm a naturally affectionate person, and I like to hold someone, regardless if I'm in love with him or not. Nevertheless, I let him have his way with me anyway.

It wasn't too terrible. He was adequate and he did please me to some degree. He kept asking me if I wanted him to stop. By then I was already too aroused to tell him no, so I let him keep going. The actual act was nothing to write home about. He was "meh". He got what he wanted and I felt like I would never see him again. He did ask if he could call me the next day, but I told him I was going to my friend's baby shower (which was true).

The day after that I tried to call him and sent him an email. He didn't call me back, but he did send an email back saying he wasn't available and he was going to try to come back to Vegas in the future, but he never did. I made the mistake of liking him and having feelings for him, so it hurt when he never contacted me again. I did, however, give him a piece of my mind in an angry email that he never answered.

Ever since that experience, one night stands are out for me. If that's your cup of tea, more power to you, but I can't deal with them. I felt like I had been used for a piece of ass. When my mom found out, she freaked (unfortunately, she came to live with me for an extended period of time - long story). I will NEVER mention my sex life to my mom again. How mortifying! :-(

I feel guilty for deceiving her, making up lies so I could go out with my companions, and for hiding this secret from my closest friends, but I have to. I can't possibly tell them. It's fun to keep a secret, in a way, because it's something "forbidden" in my mind that no one knows about, but at the same time, I don't like lying to anyone, especially those I love and care about. Since my mom's been living with me, I feel like a rebellious teenager again. When I was living alone, the thought of hiring an escort was something I never acted upon. Life is funny sometimes, huh?

Which brings me back to my original topic - hiring companions. Obviously I was extremely happy and satisfied with my last encounter and I plan many more in the future, but I know it cannot last forever. (Plus, it can be very expensive, and I'm certainly not wealthy - at least, not yet). Honestly, all I want is someone to be there with me everyday, not just for an evening, but for a lifetime. Not just for flirting and sexual adventures, but the real thing.

So I compartmentalize my life and feel like I have a split personality - the "good girl" who searches for true love, faithfulness, and a steady, solid relationship and the sexually-charged, flirtatious, "bad girl" siren part of me that enjoys having these secret trysts that no one knows about. One day I hope to share the good and bad sides of my personality with one very lucky man. :-)

It's all very strange and new to me, but I plan to enjoy it as much as I can. It's better than being hurt by a stranger, that's for sure.

The extreme case - "Bad Girl" by Madonna, co-starring Christopher Walken, directed by David Fincher from Erotica (1992). Anyone who said she was a bad actress apparently never saw this music video.

Finding a straight male escort - Where do you begin and what to look out for

2009-09-02T11:01:00.000-07:00

So you're sitting in front of the computer, or you have the yellow pages in front of you, or one of those free magazines that advertise "Alternative Lifestyles" in the back columns, or something to that effect? How does a woman go about looking for a straight male escort? It can be really nerve-wracking and scary. I totally understand where you're coming from. There's tons of advice out there for men looking for female providers, but the concept of women hiring men is relatively new. This is how I did it.

Well, let's start with the trusty old search engine, Google. I did a search for "male escorts" at first, but I kept getting a lot of sites like Adult Friend Finder or something similar, but not what I was looking for. I didn't want just some random booty call. Again, I searched Craigslist, but I didn't trust the men on there.

I looked in my local yellow pages (and the Entertainment section is literally hundreds of pages long with tons of advertisements for escorts in Vegas), but they were mainly women, and the men who were advertised in it were clearly gay. I refined my search to include "straight male escorts for women", or something similar, and I started to find more websites of men that were closer to what I wanted, but not quite. I found one provider (I won't mention his name here) but what he had to say about his clients was so disrespectful and demeaning to women, plus his prices were outrageous. He seemed to show up as one of the first, if not the first result that came up.

I found directories with straight male escorts, but the men on there did not look any better than your typical, garden-variety, wannabe gigolo you could find on CL. I did find a provider here in Vegas whose prices were right, but he made me feel icky. It was obvious he used his camera phone to take pictures and it was very unprofessional. Another guy was on a lot of the other directories as well, but he wasn't my type - too buff (I don't like beefcake all that much). Nevertheless, the search went on.

Finally, I landed on a website for Companion X (his name is kept anonymous for personal reasons - in a future post I will tell you all about my experience with him). Although he was handsome, his bio was impressive, and he had a lovely website, I still had my doubts. The website looked really good - in fact, it looked too good - it was almost fake-looking. I wasn't sure if he was legit. If I am going to give thousands of dollars of my hard-earned money to a stranger, he'd better be legit and not some scam.

So I Googled the hell out of him. I couldn't find any reviews, which made me suspicious, but I didn't find anything unsavory about him either, so I took a chance and sent him the dreaded first email. Within twenty-four hours I had a response from him. After a couple of emails, he trusted me enough to give me his phone number, and we kept in touch until our date.

Don't be surprised if your escort Googles you as well, or wants to check an employment reference. He also wants to know that he's dealing with a real client and that you're not law enforcement. It is a good rule of thumb to keep in regular contact with your companion. Let him get to know you, so you both feel like you have a chemistry, friendship, and camaraderie with each other when you finally meet in person.

Also, think of your budget and the time you will spend with him. Obviously it depends on what you want to hire him for. Personally, if I feel good talking to him on the phone and through email, and that chemistry carries over in real life, I would hire my companion for a minimum of twenty-four hours. This will give you plenty of time to be comfortable with him, have plenty of fun, and a sense of intimacy between the two of you.

The last time I hired my companion we spent about sixteen hours together, which was actually longer than the time I hired him for (twelve to fourteen hours), we had so much fun and it was still not enough time for more "uplifting" moments. ;-)

It is a very good sign that he has professionally-done pictures on his website, a blog, or Twitter, to show you that he is indeed a real person, and not law enforcement himself (believe me, that was one of my concerns too - am I going to be arrested if I do this?). Ask him to provide you with references or reviews from past clients. He will be more than happy to do so if you are serious about hiring him.

His bio will also tell you a lot about him. Even though one companion may be drop-dead gorgeous, he might not be a good fit for you, but another one who catches your eye will. Do you want a guy-next-door type, someone laid-back, fun, and relaxed? Or someone more sophisticated, cultured, worldly, and mysterious? The style of his website will be a good indicator of the type of man you imagine yourself with for the evening.

Above all, please have respect for your companion. He is still a human being, not a sex toy. He will do what you ask of him (within reason). If he is uncomfortable with something, you will be uncomfortable as well, and you don't want that. You want to have the highest quality experience because you are rewarding and pampering yourself. He is there to do all he can to make you feel special because you deserve it.

Is it illegal to hire a male escort, you may be asking yourself? No, because you are paying for his time and companionship ONLY. Anything else that should happen is between you and him, and it is a private matter between consenting adults. He won't discuss anything illegal that may possibly compromise him and he cares very much about discretion. Whatever does happen, rest assured you are with a pro and he will make you feel wanted, desired, and needed, something "regular" men may be clueless about. Happy hunting! :-D

Why hire a male escort? My story begins here...

2009-08-30T12:56:00.000-07:00

My first blog post! Looks like I'm going to pop my Blogger cherry here, so here goes... ;-)

I'm Lady Luck, your hostess for the evening. If you told me five or ten years ago I would be hiring male escorts, my response would have been, "What are you smoking? I'm never going to do that! Are there even such things as straight male escorts?" Yes, ladies and gentlemen, there are, and I plan to share my experiences with you.

How did I go from being in two long-term relationships to this exploratory phase in my life? Although I was in love with both of my exes, in the long run, they could not give me what I wanted over a period of time, physically or emotionally. They were both older men (and I confess, I still have a weakness for older gentlemen to this day), but eventually they became more like my father than my boyfriend.

I began searching for a new person around my own age whom I felt could give me the next long-term relationship that I so desired, but again, I was disappointed by the men I went out with. I used to call a free dating chatline, but all I got were unemployed, lazy losers, douchebags, sleazoids, game-players, manipulators, perverts who were only out for a piece of ass, or guys who were decent enough, but I had no chemistry with them at all. For a laugh, I'll be sharing you some of these horror stories in the future as well. I even tried Craigslist. Don't ever, ever, EVER use CL to find someone. CL is The Antichrist. I'm serious.

I went to professional dating services like It's Just Lunch, but at the time, I didn't want to pay what I felt were exorbitant fees for what they felt my ideal man should be. I tried eHarmony (I was rejected), Match.com, Yahoo! Personals, and Plenty of Fish. I even tried a site called Sugar Daddy For Me. Nothing worked. Either the men who contacted me and were interested weren't my type and I wasn't feeling it, or the men I liked were not interested in me. Even in real life this was the case. I was rejected by a man my own age that I was deeply in love with, but even though I felt a strong attraction to this person, and I felt almost positive he was attracted to me as well, he didn't bite the bait. This pushed me over the edge to do what I am doing today.

Now, I won't lie to you. I'm not going to claim to be this freewheeling playgirl, even though it may seem like that on the surface. I may enjoy playing the role for a while, but eventually this roller-coaster ride will come to an end once I meet Mr. Right. I'm still searching for that ideal long-term relationship, even marriage one day, but until Prince Charming (if there is such a thing) comes to sweep me off my feet, I have no qualms about hiring companions until then.

I am kind of high-maintenence. I'm your "champagne taste on a beer budget" type of girl. :-) Most men don't have a clue on how to treat a lady, in or out of the bedroom. The men I was going out with wouldn't be able to take me to the lavish places I wanted or treat me the way I deserved to be treated - like a queen.

So I decided I would take a chance and hire someone to be my date for the evening, to go to the best shows, restaurants, and hotels. Why not? I've worked hard my whole life at various mind-numbing jobs and at school. Why shouldn't I treat myself? Why shouldn't I have a true gentleman on my arm for once who would make me feel wanted, needed, and desired for my mind as well as my body, on my terms? There was no one out there I could find for free like that, unfortunately. If I found a man like that to be in a relationship with, then I wouldn't be sitting in front of my laptop blogging about this today.

In a future blog post I will talk more about the conflicting emotions that comes from the experience as well. Right now I want to focus on the good things, think happy thoughts, and be positive because you only get one ride in life. As Bette Davis famously said in All About Eve, "Fasten your seatbelts, it's gonna be a bumpy night." ;-)